Low, middle, or high

Low, middle, or high

Texasdays​(dom male) • Dec 4, 2025

Just a general question today. Maybe we can get some insite going. Where do y'all like to live when it comes to protocol in your dynamic.

Low protocol - with a few rituals and standing expectations

Middle protocol - Lots of rituals and expectations, but available in the vanilla world and more socially acceptable.

Hight protocol - Forms, positions, movements, voice, and presentation all fall in line with strict rituals and expectations.

Personally, I love High Protocol, but it is utterly exhausting for any great length of time on all parties. I do like the sense that the sub is basically just riding the edge of sub space at all times, and can be ready to fall into it at any given moment. I have enourmous respect for anyone attempting 24/7 TPE with High Protocol and wish them all the best of luck.

Usually though, I'd say I fall into Middle Protocol dynamics and create High Protocol scenes for special occasions or for added intensity.

I understand that some people don't identify with this at all, but are some of the rituals or forms borrowed in your dynamics if you don't? Anyone willing to share how this works into your dynamics?

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Dec 4, 2025

The main problem is there are very few, on either side of the collar, that can handle High Protocol.

More and more people are just interested in the kinky sex aspects of the lifestyle. The mental and emotional sides are beyond them. Neither side are willing to put in the effort for it to really work.

Edd15​(sub male) • Dec 4, 2025

If the sub/slave has its own home, obligations, pets it is impossible to commit to a High Protocol expectation. That is when a Middle or Low Protocol is more appropriate.

Texasdays​(dom male) • Dec 4, 2025

You know, I actually agree with you, but I also think it's because they don't really know how much better the rituals, protocols, and anticipation make the sex. You spend all of that time watching and anticipating each other so closely, and finally all of that built up tension gets it's release through your kinks. There's nothing quite like it.

I think if there was a real way to show that to people more, it would make much more sense.

Texasdays​(dom male) • Dec 4, 2025

Yup, I agree. High Protocol can't be maintained completely like that. I've been able to setup High Protocol events with people that I knew well before though, and that was quite a lot of fun. Kind of like a fantastic dinner party.

Edd15​(sub male) • Dec 4, 2025

Concur, High Protocol provides the best experience for Master and Slave, as long as Master is flexible and able to do it day by day without any live in situation.

Anna Lynn​(sub female) • Dec 9, 2025

I love structure and protocol.

Through out my life, I have lived within middle and high protocol the most but adapted to the level of protocol expected by the one I served.

Personally, I would say I enjoy high protocol the most. It never caused me to slip into sub space. I'm not really sure I understand that aspect. Instead, even though I have internalized my slavery long ago, it helped me stay within my slave mindset when I felt myself slipping a bit. It helped keep me on my toes and ever vigilant to my dedication to obedience.

It is hard. A lot harder than people imagine and takes dedication but it can be done if the heart has the desire and willingness.

Steellover​(sub male) • Dec 9, 2025

I couldn't do high protocol in a 24-7 situation; too much other stuff going on (Job, hobbies, social life, etc.) but for those times I'm with Her- just the two of us (or those who are into what we are) then high protocol would indeed be a beautiful thing. But just jumping into high protocol right away was mentally exhausting, I'll be honest- and I know it wouldn't work for me 24/7.

For a new relationship, it would have to come gradually. It would have to evolve from a casual date (at first) to medium protocol to high- with the right Mistress, and only in those situations where we are together and I'm at Her feet.

Oh but it's a nice, beautiful fantasy though....

Edd15​(sub male) • Dec 9, 2025

High protocol is the most rewarding, Only a chained man is truly free. So to report for a scene and maintain High Protocol can be truly rewarding and refreshing.

Texasdays​(dom male) • Dec 9, 2025

You really get into the heart of my questions and get me thinking. It's really refreshing.
I suppose when I say you can easily slip into sub space, you might actually just be maintaining pretty much all of the time in your preferred dynamic. It naturally pleases you to submit, and be of service, but my understanding of sub space (which is something I have never been able to experience myself so it a mental exercise) is when a person submits to another and through some combination of stimuli or perception thought ceases, and it becomes a world of sensation. What is happening at the current point in time consumes all of your attention and consciousness and nothing else matters. It could be a kink or situation that triggers it, but it could also be a look or a phrase that captivates your entire essence. If heard that it's amazingly sensual and satisfying when done right, but I have also heard that it can be utterly terrifying if used or abused.