Anger Bondage - rope

Anger Bondage - rope

TopekaDom​(dom male)​{Chaos } • Feb 18, 2026

While doing some of my writing, I conceived a scene where a Dom has a fit of anger and to relive such feelings he engages in a shibari scene with a female subject.

(No, the subject is not the cause of anger. Nor does she suffer for it)

Is this a real thing, or did I just come up with it out of the blue? I don't do a great deal of rope myself, due to not having anyone to bind. Do you think such activity is too dangerous to engage in while in such an emotional state?

Discuss:

Grizzledoldman​(dom male) • Feb 18, 2026

I think a LOT of what we do in the kink world is FAR too dangerous to do while in a fit of anger. To me (ymmv) that implies a loss of control. So almost anything done in that mental mindspace is abuse. Control is everything. The reasons we do things matter.

Literate Lycan​(dom male) • Feb 19, 2026

Bottom Line Up Front (BLUF): Yes, it's a real thing.

I'm going to go in a much different direction than the previous response. That doesn't mean I disagree with the previous answer. Just a different perspective.

As long as control is maintained, it isn't too dangerous.

I would put it in another capacity - it can be an outlet for release. Physical exertion focuses the body and mind and provides calm. Many of the kinky shenanigans we do in this underworld community quite literally exist for releasing pent-up stress to include anger.

Consider a very angry fuck! Or impact play. Both parties benefit in the end (pun intended) and stress is definitely relieved. We must remember though, it adds another element of concern to the risk factor: the inherent dangers of rope. As long as you can maintain control, you can use it as an outlet.

And it isn't abuse if both parties are knowledgable and consenting to the event.

So is it possible to perform an activity such as Shibari while in a mode of anger to enable a release? Yes.

Is it too dangerous to perform as described? Possibly but it depends. One size shoe does not fit all feet.

If I had a rough day at work and was upset about a staff member, then finding release while dissolving into tying someone up might be just what the Doctor ordered. If I was upset at the bunny, then tying her up might not the direction to go.

Thank you for thought provoking question.

Grizzledoldman​(dom male) • Feb 19, 2026

I like your perspective, and it may surprise you to know that we are not in disagreement at ALL in your answer.

I generally require more clear language and when things are not clear I usually make the effort to clarify my thoughts....which I did not do sufficiently.

There is a place for all emotions in this world and anger is no different. Think of righteous anger, or the anger that meets disobedience, or the anger aimed at the injustices of life, or really any other anger. THAT is what I read in your response. And that is simply life and one of its expressions.

The original question as I read it: "a fit of anger" expresses an uncontrolled/incontrollable expression of anger. Like an epileptic fit it happens as an explosion over which a person has no control. A fit of anger doesn't allow for checking in, or moderating the power of a punch or slap or cane, it doesn't care how it affects anyone else, it doesn't care about consent. Not even a little.

If there is a pre-established agreement that a sub consents to ANYTHING the Dom wants, more power to all involved. But how do one consent to uncontrolled violence?

FInally, and this is a point where my knowledge is woefully inadequate. How does one engage in a "fit of anger" (keeping my definition in mind) in a tie? Doesn't shibari require a very thoughtful, present, mindset to even complete a tie?

Thank you both, Topeka for a thoughtful question, and Lycan for a more complete response.

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Feb 19, 2026

I also said No at first and then Yes! so thank you too Topeka for a thoughtful question, and Lycan for a more complete response. just like Grizzledoldman said, I first agreed with him and flipped my opinion

I was thinking about when we punish, we punish because we had been angered and gotten mad (that something wasn't done right or disappointment etc. etc. we all know the drill) We don't punish when "mad" because the know word mad comes from madness and a lack of control but when we punish we are still angry aren't we? or we wouldn't punish? Anger has many LEVELS that can be controlled.

thank for making me think