Is this a kink or just D/s in general?

Well, kink is usually a specific action or thing that creates arousal or some form of attraction. To me, it seems more that you are very interested in the mental aspect of D/s relationships. So I dont think it is a kink, though it is a very important thing for learning and appreciating your submissive, sir

This is a normal part of a healthy relationship whether it be vanilla or domme/ sub. How else are we to learn about each other and learn what our subs need and they learn what you need?

I don’t think it’s just a normal side of being dominant. I love when my dominant shares what they enjoy about the dynamic as well. The trust being built goes both ways.

When you finally find a balance, it's not something to argue about, but someone who wants to try things with you, test things later, not the jump of sex, but jump up and talk about it, and not force the sex, but still be adults and wait a bit when the time is right. D/s is still on both minds, but there's a time and place for it. You need your friends and space and time together when it's time to get frisky, lock the doors, dim the lights, and fall with it. We can stand for each other, heal, and grow, and evolve to support and help each other out. Of course, it won't be a relationship at first, but friendship with connection and chemistry, some to laugh with, do silly things, and travel, and go out and do things.not about one person it’s two people So when you get down to grow with each other , put your likes and dislikes together unpack baggage together and try to make peace with what you can work with; not everything will be perfect, that's why it's called going through experiences to try and learn and build a better foundation to grow with your relationship. It's not always about being together but being in the same room doing lazy things on Sunday, both just wanting to relax, maybe later bring the passion of kink to your lovely night. He wore his sexy underwear, she just wore a sheer robe; it was both on their minds, but it's in sync with love. Even in the middle of the night or in the morning, sometimes holding hands. She got her panties in a thong; he wants her to wear a toy so he can push those buttons to make her aroused; he loves to make her this way. Some things you can get away with. Find things to explore, be sexy, a little vanilla but risky in a good matter. Truly, there are places to be naked, like hot springs, wear no tops or bottoms, cuddle up to each other, have a beer, just relax. Once you get home, some things are going to happen. Having a bit of imagination, pretend your partner is someone you're meeting, play along, even in public. It's your life, you've only got one life , so make it a good one of lovely thing to do together. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1Bz7eaVzu7/?mibextid=wwXIfr

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I don't see how deepening a relationship is kink. Don't you want to be seen as she does for more than just her superficial layers but all that lies beneath? Isn't that the reason to be with someone? What's kinky is viewing emotional depth and intimacy as something other than normal. It might be difficult to have, but it's what everyone wants. You should be so lucky