SubStanChill

sub male

36

On the surface I come off as a “traditional” guy with a traditional family.   Many see me as confident and assertive, yet warm and compassionate.   

appearance wise I’ve been blessed with Pretty privilege.  This has been great with women, but it has partly made making male friends challenging. I’m above averagely endowed and never struggled to connect with women in my single years. 

I would consider myself intellectually curious when it comes to most topics. If I don’t know anything about a topic I’m still very interested in being educated on it.  That said, although I have a masters degree, I would call myself a jack of all trades master of none. 

Hobbies: woodworking, sewing, hunting, fishing, hiking, performance arts.

Interests: public and foreign affairs, history, philosophy, psychology.

Favorite Authors: Kurt Vonnegut, Patrick Rothfus, and GRRM

Favorite Painters: Claude Monet, Francisco Goya, Vincent Van Gogh

Favorite Thinkers: Albert Camus, Soren Kierkegaard, Thomas Aquinus. 

Favorite Film Makers: Coen Brothers, Guillermo Del Toro, Stephen Spielberg, Christopher Nolan. 

 

 

I would consider myself a Gentleman Submissive. I love providing acts of service but in a way that anticipates my domme’s needs. Above all else I want my domme to feel like the goddess she is while in my presence and beyond. 

In public I take on whatever role my domme demands of me.  If she needs me to be the charming intellectual I will, if she needs me to be mysterious and seductive I will. If she needs me to be a dumb pretty boy she keeps around to display her superiority, I will. If she needs me to be the whipped husband who holds her purse and Starbucks latte, while she spends the money that she lets me earn for her, I’ll be happy to assume that role. I assume the role she demands, both in practice and in tone.  The intellectual side will persona will quote Kierkegaard and Vonnegut. The seductor will speak his eyes and act with his hands. The pretty boy will speak first and think never. The whipped spouse will say “yes, dear” to any request.

I’m falling absolutely in love with Orgasm Denial, chastity, and I hope my wife will eventually embrace her dominant side and become the leader I crave in our relationship. I’m so deeply committed to her. She is everything I’ve ever wanted in a woman. 

I love service, humiliation, and I don’t know if there is an appropriate term for this but I like being treated in public as a male bimbo or “pretty boy dumb” 

That’s between my wife and me.

Recently finished Locktober with my at the time somewhat reluctant wife. But a week into November… and she decided that she preferred my behavior locked up.  That was on November 7th.  Honestly, I have no clue when I’ll be out of chastity… can’t say I expected her to enjoy it so much…. But I’m definitely not complaining… and not just because I’m not allowed to complain.

Oct 9, 2025