Exhibitionism

My question lies in actual public play that isn't a created scene. Honestly it's mainly curiosity. I understand the need for a safe controlled environment and that there are group events for this.

Are there levels to exhibitionism and if so what are they? Where do you draw the line in public spaces? What are the rules and guidelines you go by and do you usually have a spotter before engaging in any activity? What's The most important thing you have learned from your experience?

I had the exhibitionist bug as part of my overall list of "shit that turned me on" years ago. I kept that mostly a fantasy. The very few times I acted on that impulse was in controlled environments with like-minded others only.

If I am understanding your post correctly, and in general, the short answer is No. Personally speaking, I draw a hard limit right before the word "public" anything.

Not only does getting caught line you up for an indecent exposure rap, there's the risk of causing damage to someone who has a right to not see things like that. Spotter or no, there's always the chance the wrong person will see the wrong thing. One cannot "Unsee" shit like that. No one should have to deal with it.

IMHO stick with secure environments where those who see what you wanna show them are the only ones there to take in the view.

I'll start by saying I didn't stay in a Holiday Inn Express last night nor have I been too much into exhibitionism so I have limited exposure to this (pun intended). I have had the public display of affection where I was so overcome in the moment I wanted to press limits, but was mindful enough not to cross any legal lines. However, I will say Miki above covers it very well - be mindful of those around you because although it may be your kink, there are a ton of people who have zero desire to see it or participate in it.

I did a quick search and discovered there are in fact clinical levels to exhibitionism ranging from voluntary, consensual (as Miki points out) to the Exhibitionist Disorder (DSM-5) but I don't think your question was directed towards clinical evaluations. As far as I know (which is very limited in this field) I don't think our community considers exhibitionism in levels, although I can imagine there is the random "I grabbed her ass in the bookstore because books are sexy" to the "She went down on me under the table in the restaurant" and all the shades in between.

Whatever you decide, remember to be safe, sane and consensual - and that includes those who may accidentally walk up on you in public.

The main thing is not to involve others in your kink without consent.

Specially the vanillas.

That being said, there are numinous levels of Exhibitionism. Some see it as degrading: such as being the only naked person in the room. Others see it as freedom, as being the object of desire. You can do it as part of an interrogation scene: Being forced to strip.

One of my personal favorites is having a poker game with a bunch of guys and the only female is the dealer who is naked.

In my personal opinion, Miki gave the best advice you could ever get.

Here's my little addition: I am older than many that post here and I am in a Femdom marriage. Been married 53 years and we have attended many events, nudist, erotic, etc. so we know people in many different lifestyles. There is one theme that has always been #1 with everyone at every event -RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER. For my generation, exibitionism without consent is not showing respect for others.

Now, here is a personal situation - My Dom requires me to be naked at all times at home with window blinds and doors open. She says that if someone sees me naked and does not approve, that's their problem. I DO NOT stand in front of an open door or window naked, cannot be seen from the street, and if someone comes unannounced, I have something to slip on quickly. So, I am both respecting my Dom and vanilla people.