Q&A

I have decided to place my questions here, that way all who want to participate can do so and I won’t be overwhelmed with emails giving out the same questions.

I have been working through my journey in BDSM, exploring, educating and experiencing different aspects in the BDSM lifestyle. Finding out what my likes are dislikes are, what I identify as and how to go about putting all together, my own BDSM lifestyle jigsaw puzzles. So my journey is finding all the pieces and putting them together.

I find myself asking questions to myself, finding the answers and understanding why I feel that way. Now I would like to know the same about others.

My first question:

Being either side of the slash, How did you know that is what you were Dominant, submissive, etc?

What made you realize it and how did you feel about it?

I think in this journey, it's natural to question your roll on occasion. For myself, I think back to when I was a pre-teen and I was doing "naughty" things with a neighbor. I know now that what we were doing was scening and I also know now that was the 'Top'. Here's the thing, I wasn't really the one in control. I was acting more in the capacity of a Service Top, or as Miss Bonnie once suggested that I get...a Dom by proxy (which is basicly the same thing to my understanding.).

Anyways, I look back at that experience occasionally and think, "Am I really a submissive or am I lying to myself?". It usually happens when someone *ELSE* tries to invalidate my BDSM belief system. When someone ELSE tries to tell ME what *I* am. Beyond those moments of self-reexamination, I never really questioned "am I Submissive or a Dominant". I formally came into the lifestyle after my marriage ended. In that marriage, I was the HOH within the home as per our culture. It was EXHAUSTING! It probably didn't help that he did not shoulder his role OUTSIDE the home, as our culture demanded. So when I came into the lifestyle, I relished the submissive role!

Thank you for asking the question and I can't wait for more. !

#StayCurious

The world will always step on and walk all over anyone not strong enough to resist. I lead when commands aren't needed, I command when leading doesnt work, and I take charge over any potential consensual partner

I believe Alfred Lord Tennyson said it best “Tis better to be the spanker then to be spanked”.

I've READ Tennyson and I don't recall ANY of his writing saying that.

Which one is it? 🤣😈🍭

It is a little known text he inscribed on the WC wall during a bender.

For me it was when I first had a woman offer to suck my cock because she said I exuded masculinity and it made her knees weak. That was the moment I knew I needed to be in control and dominant.

yo desde muy joven convencia a mis amigas a hacer cosas diferentes y les gustaba participar. Lo exponia abiertamente sin tapujos y muchas decian que no pero siempre les creaba la curiosidad.A partir de ahi la paciencia suouso una gran parte del exito y poco a poco fui construyendo mi aspecto dominante que profeso

It was when I realized that if I got the early train to Dublin and didn't gander at any geezers but gawked over at the wimin and used me best Penny's shirt and Guienys finest Farah trousers paired with my dubes they'd be all over me like a rash. Just had to get a few scoops into me and then get them girlies some smacs , maybe a chicken burger and a tin of mineral put on some romantic inter county commentary and bobs your uncle I'd be swimming in pussy .

You can be whatever you want with many roles in your life, in your body, with your dream. Be how you feel. You like leather or being tied up, do you want to take control? Practice. Practice. Discover and play with it don’t have go out have sex but be erotic and mysterious til you find sense of your passion! Invest in erotic , the clothes , mindset , what’s drives you passion and romance be so selective who you allow in your energy your temple comes with respect or terms gate is closed. Sex Is not the drive but intimacy with one sparks your soul on same page to share The harmonies peace of love.