Abuse or not?

Update, it was a huge misunderstanding, we had a long conversation. All is ok now.

OK

Good luck as you move forward..

I was wondering if it was a blackmail situation. I’m so sorry. Whilst I can’t offer any advice from experience, hopefully now others can put forward suggestions as to how to maybe safeguard yourself from at least this point forward. Personally I would cut all contact. I know that’s a terrifying thought because it then just becomes an unknown… but your fear is feeding his sense of power over you and while you keep feeding that directly it makes it difficult to change anything.
I guess from there it depends on what’s at risk. If it’s a relationship, maybe you’ll need to sit down and have a difficult conversation with your partner and bring it to light so that they hear it from you first. Again, I’m not speaking from experience so these are just some thoughts that come to mind.
Hopefully something here helps, or someone else has some suggestions that can help.

Oh ok! Glad to hear it

Now that we know was only online , be cautious. No one owns you until you earn their respect it’s not given it’s earned! Many pretend Doms act like this have zero safety report and block. He treated you this way at the beginning, and they can try to make it better, but it’s a sign of a person with narcissistic disorder . They need to heal for them self. Better without them and be happy for yourself!

He’s just trying to gauge how far he can push you to submit. He can claim to have files but has nothing concrete to prove or gain. Don’t be swayed by sweet words; cause it’s sweet talk go by effect blue prints he’s got filed he getting self being ready for prison. Many young dominants pretend to be older and think they own you in messages. Don’t fall for their lies; they hide behind their insecurities but lack the manners to confront them. When they get caught, they’ll confess. Any site you can report him on, send him messages, and block him. I suggest you start over. Never share too much information; keep it minimal. If someone is harassing you, report it to the site. If they continue their behavior, they’ll end up in jail. Take a break, change your nickname, and heal from this experience. No online guy can tell you how to live; tell him that he’s the problem and that he’s looking for a mother because he can’t be a man enough to respect a woman. He’s failed to launch you; you can do better than this loser. Weed them out and be more selective. They bring you peace, not a headache. Don’t respond; take a deep breath and ignore them. You don’t need to know even being a Dom. Be safe.