Saying Hello to the Community with a prompt

Saying Hello to the Community with a prompt

Conquest​(switch male) • Apr 24, 2017

I've become enthralled to the community and wish to say hello by asking a question.

When did it become clear to you that the vanilla lifestyle wasn't for you, and how did you commemorate your awakening?

Villanelle​(staff) • Apr 24, 2017

Welcome to the community Conquest - great to see you here and happy to see more conversation!

I've always known I wasn't turned on by the conventional images of sex I saw around me. Who knows why - I could never discern a particular reason. I came to believe I am just wired this way. But it took me a while to get to the point of self acceptance and celebration of my particular brand of sexuality. When I was first exploring I experienced a lot of guilt and confusion thinking there was something wrong with my desire for SM and control. The internet saved me in many ways, giving names to my desires and giving me the opportunity to make friends from all over the world with similar interests. I learnt that I wasn't abnormal and that there were plenty of men out there who appreciate and seek out women like me.

The above experience is the main reason I am involved with THE CAGE. I know the value of community, support, information, and validation for all of us, regardless of level of experience. Having a safe place to ask questions, have a rant, meet partners for play or more, or to just make a friend with similar interests is why we are here.

Conquest​(switch male) • Apr 24, 2017

I knew something was never quite right about me. Much like Evangeline said, when I saw a girl, or say porn. I was never interested, and still now am not interested. For a while I pondered if I was gay, and quickly found out that I wasn't. So I was resolute, to believe that I was simply asexually. But then one day I was talking to My Lady, and she mentioned how she would love to be fully dominated, and I thought it was an entertaining idea. So I looked around at it, and even tried some role plays. My final conclusion was that I had been going it all around the wrong way. And I look forward to letting my true self run free.

Faerietattoo​(switch female){None} • Apr 25, 2017

Hello beautiful people, it would not be 'right' to sit on the sidelines of this post, given the recent circumstances.

I knew I was bi by mid to late teens, but put the interest down to sexual abuse at the hands of someone older. But when push came to shove I could not do anything, i had become impotent. In rare flashes of bravery I took the odd person home but was always left unfullfilled. As i got older my hormones kicked in - I needed a child. Then I needed shelter, found a place to rest my head. Still always something missing because this was not an honest and open shelter. Sex was a chore and not truly enjoyed, no freedom to move, try new things. Not exhalted. Not treasured. Not touched.

I was not open. I was not honest. And neither was my shelter. My house burned down in a sudden explosion of honesty - all walls blown apart bar one. My child was still standing, swaying a bit and hair askew - but still standing. I grew this child within me and have a strong connection.

And the soul standing next to me held out a hand -come with me, I can show you a place to rest your head. I was led here by the hand, believed the soul I held. Trusted - which for me is huge, given my life. But then the hand was snatched away, harmfully, and I danced along a razors edge looking for clarity. So I came back to the cage, to investigate myself more deeply in a space where such things are allowed. And in myself found everything I need for now.

So here I am, a bare naked Faerie

DrWakko • Apr 25, 2017

I always knew I was a bit different. I always knew what I was, but I didn't have or know the name of it. I learned about BDSM from yahoo chat rooms and took to the internet to learn as much as I could. I started off in on line world of bdsm around twenty. By twenty-five I found on line sites that lead me to local groups and other kinksters. At my first munch I knew I found my place and where I belong. From there I haven't looked back. I now attend as many BDSM and lifestyle classes as I can and I am enjoying every minute of it.


DW