Quote: Is it insecurity (I don't expect any Dom to admit to this one)
It's always circling back to insecurity. And you would be surprised how many people, including doms, will admit to it. Provided you CHALLENGE them.
Personally I don't mess around. If someone is WEAK I call them weak. It's surprisingly effective on people with trust issues and anxiety provided you make the right approach. Even if they're on the verge of being done with you.
Any dom worth their salt wants to be that capable. I set an example by never turning my own back, always listening, and never blocking. Under ANY circumstances. I can handle that and more. Gauntlet tossed down. Your move. What do you want to do? The reminder of choice helps.
As for why people block in general... fear. Fear born from assumptions most likely. But more then that it's cowardice. We all crap ourselves. Hell, there are times I've had my head tight in a vice and had cry snot when I'm a babbling mess when I'm at my worst. But I ALWAYS stand my ground. NEVER turning my back or stopping communication. It's how I gain trust and loyalty back. In the end you have to face yourself. You'll be glad I can call you weak when you're hard on yourself and I talk you out of denial.
Any dom pretending they're never weak when they clearly are is ignorant of their own safety. And by that logic of how they affect others around them. even if you don't care about yourself you'll consider the subs safety if nothing else. Show your strengths but admit your flaws. Maybe it's because I set that example that it is followed.
Sometimes someone you care about blocks you. That... hurts. It would be so easy to play the blame game. Resent back. But if I did I would never have worked things out with so many people. I don't think people that block so easily understand the pain they can inflict. So caught up with themselves. Assuming you'll be just fine... Or deluding themselves that they don't care at the time...
Man. If we all know deaf ears and turned backs always does more harm then good, why do people do it? But of course. You call others sensitive when you're so easily triggered yourself.
They either see you as a threat, hate you or want to be you. Focus on the last one. Learn how to teach others how. There is a pattern. People are more alike then they care to admit.