Influences of kink

Influences of kink

curiouskittyy​(sub female){GentlemanX} • Nov 30, 2018

I wrote a blog recently about how Disney and films/tv shows in general may have directed me to the kinky lifestyle. I received a message a little while later from a friend mentioning how certain music had Influenced his own kink.

I had considered music too (and listed a Disney song in particular) but didn’t want to ramble on my blog for too long. So I thought it would fun to ask everyone what 3 songs or films/tv shows may have led you here? And why do you think this is?

SnappyJ​(sub female){Collared} • Nov 30, 2018

For me, it wasn't music or movies, it was books. I can remember reading a book I stole from my mother, and while I don't remember the title or any other details, I do remember that it was based around a girls' disciplinary facility - like juvie hall. There was a shower scene involving creative implements the girls had made, and it was very much about power exchange.

That was the first time I can recall getting aroused, and then I sought out more books. Interestingly, I had never heard of the Gor books until recently (though I think I've read every other related book -- Kushiel's Dart is a favorite), and now my Dom husband tells me, "Oh, I've got a whole box of those books, somewhere."

D'oh!

MasterBear​(other butch) • Nov 30, 2018

Oooo!!!!!!


So many influences.



When I started it wasn't media acceptable like it is now.
There was in porn like The Story of O.
Ugggg that made me want to stab put my eyes with a fork.

But My love had books that validated and changed my entire life.

Stone butch blues by Leslie Feinburg
To love, serve, obey by Vi Johnson
The whole lesbian sex book by Newman

I read those books 17 years ago. And I still reference them and I still think about them.


Stone Butch Blues was critical because my first wife was Butch. And as it was a very abusive relationship and very unhealthy I took on more of a feminine roll. It wasn't until I much much later that I realize the severity of what I had done.

When I read Stone Butch Blues it gave me not only perspective of my own history but it connected deeply to my sense of self. I actually wrote Leslie at one point and just thanked her immensely for writing such a hugely impactful book.

VY Johnson was critical because she was an African-American slave in the 60s. The choices that she made were consensual based on a very loose construct of consent. For her service was everything and her body was last. And there were parts of the book that talked about when she was serving Masters that did not care about her body. And the downfall of that.


The whole lesbian sex book was huge and my understanding of sex and energy. Explain things basically which is exactly what I needed back then and now. It validated who I was and what I could do.

I know these books aren't necessarily BDSM, but they all tied directly into me being a successful Master.

No music or movie influenced me, i am born that way

FabSeverus​(dom male) • Nov 30, 2018

I guess a lots of kinksters heard Ian Dury “ hit me with your rhythm of stick” or a French singer Boris Vian “ fait moi mal Johnny “

Movie of course Peter Pan with age regression, caged fairy, tinker bell definitely a kinky name

Onlinedomguy​(dom male) • Nov 30, 2018

I like this post. I can recall being a young boy and seeing movies and shows on TV where at times the male lead would be overwhelmed physically or through the charms of a particular woman and end up at her mercy. I can recall a scene in the old Wild Wild West show where Robert Conrad was carried off over a womans shoulder off into captivity for most of the show. Catgirl capturing Batman or Robin, things like that. I grew up with a very dominating mom so i am sure there is some sort of correlation there. The funny thing to me as i think about the post, my exploration started as a sub which makes sense to me. Now i have realized i am all Dom, but all of these early visuals and desires flamed by shows and all were always woman on top.

curiouskittyy​(sub female){GentlemanX} • Nov 30, 2018

I love these comments and books is definitely an influence too. I remember having a discussion with a friend on here ages ago about being addicted to fantasy books when I was a teen ... mostly about Saxons, Romans, even aliens lol (though humanoid of course) taking women and keeping them for their use as either slaves or pets. There are literally so many out there and I went through a stage where I was reading one a week for a very long time.

@MasterBear, I love how after 17 years these books are still such a major turning point for you. I don’t think any of these influences are necessarily bdsm and that’s the interesting thing. Disney ... films ... music and books all influences without it being intentional in any way.

@ Fabseverus, I haven’t heard it but I will listen. It’s so silly but even genie in a bottle by Christina Aguilera can be seen as kinky. E.g the following lyrics:

“I feel like I've been locked up tight
For a century of lonely nights”

“If you wanna be with me
Baby there's a price to pay”

“I'm a genie in a bottle
You gotta rub me the right way”

@ Onlinedomguy, that’s so interesting. Perhaps, that’s why you decided to explore the sub role in the beginning then. But changed your mind once exposed to one than one option.

I love all these vanilla influences, there are so many films/songs/books out there. Some obvious like Rihanna S&M and some less obvious. I can’t wait to see more.

shahh • Nov 30, 2018

I recall being mesmerized by the movie Exit to Eden when i was probably around 12. No recollection of the premise of the movie and i'm sure it was terrible...but collars, bondage, spanking, whips, servitude...all entranced me. A few scenes have been burned into my brain.

Years later i watched the Secretary when it came out...and again...entranced by and identified so strongly with the lead.

FabSeverus​(dom male) • Nov 30, 2018

Nymphomaniac with Charlotte Gainsbourg is a good one

rosethorn​(sub female) • Nov 30, 2018

I was already here but anything by lana del ray

Cithaeria • Nov 30, 2018

I feel like I was born this way and life circumstances reinforced my feelings. Ironically, I had a tremendous amount of guilt and expended a lot of energy trying to be “normal “.

I wish that I had accepted, embraced and explored my true self when I was younger. My kinkyness has always seeped out, bubbled up and boiled over in one way or another leaving me susceptible to really unhealthy relationships.

I am fortunate that I took the leap and left the unhealthy sadistic relationships that were non-consensual and have embarked on this beautiful path of self discovery.