tallslenderguy(kinky male)
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5 years ago •
Jun 29, 2020
5 years ago •
Jun 29, 2020
i don't think i have any masochist in me, i do not relate to those who want to give or receive punishment... and even struggle to understand it sometimes?A root need in my nature is for the Dom/Top to be affectionate and affirming which is not something i personally associate with "punishment."
Having said that, there are two kinks/desires/needs that live in me that i wonder about; things that may fit into this category?
One is getting spanked by hand. The truth is, this has never happened to me, just fantasy, so i have no idea how i'd respond in reality. i've seen some spanking porn that got me hot and bothered, but it's pretty specialized/specific. There is the prominent attitude of desire and affection in the Top/Dom, no attitude of anger or disapproval, as He has His sub/bottom over His lap and alternates spanks between petting and soothing. There is something very mind fucky about that for me that seduces me. For me, the reason for the hand only is His leaving His hand print on me, again, the idea of His very personal 'mark' on me is a form of insemination for me.
The other is 'humiliation.' Same as spanking, it is not done in anger, meanness or disapproval, but involves a form of seduction where He knowingly taps into a need/desire that is embarrassing for me, but it's still a need/desire, no matter my response of humiliation or embarrassment at having it surfaced. The "humiliation" part of it can be very powerful for me when i see that combined knowing look in my Top/Doms eye that He has gotten control of something He wants/needs, that others would consider reason for embarrassment.
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