Zaramia(dom female)
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5 years ago •
Jan 22, 2019
5 years ago •
Jan 22, 2019
First, straight or lesbo? seriously, you use this term, so I will go with that.
I'll say it depends on the crowd for many women. Some are absolutely heterosexual, and some are straight up homosexual, but for women, there are often many, many shades of in-between.
I'm generally fairly heteroflexible. I'm not curious about anything to do with gender. I know what women look, smell, and taste like. I know what men do. too. It's a lot more about what's between their ears, and mine, than what's between our legs.
I can tell you that Master Bear is far enough into my head, and I just figured out, a woman, that yeah, - same place, same time, some conversation, dancing, her slave, me, her, whatever - yeah... whatever she says. (I am not kidding).
As a Rope Bottom - one who is tied up - I can tell you that I don't care if my rigger is male or female. I care that my rigger is competent, confident, able to communicate, and respectful.
For me, the art of bondage is just that - art, meditation, relaxation, getting into a space, challenging myself - like yoga with assistance and enforcement. While I am connected to my rigger, and must stay in communication with them, I am cathartically connecting with myself - going to a deep internal space that allows absolute surrender - to the ropes, to the rigger, to the very depths of my soul.
Am I going to do that with someone who might take advantage of that situation? never. My soul is bared in rope. My body almost never is, unless I am already sexually intimate with my rigger.
I guess I am still unclear which end of the rope you are asking is lesbian/straight. I'm on the bound end, and I identify as heteroflexible. I've had riggers on all sides of the triangle. I have, in fact, been tied up by gay men who actually treasured and adored me, even - back in the day....
Two, or more, people, some rope, and maybe a beam or something, is a trust and caring exercise, generally. Sex is not usually a part of rope for me. I hate the term play, because it implies a "playdate", "scene", or a game, to many, rather than an exercise in trust and communication between two souls who happen to share a complimentary passion for rope/leather/whatever. (I do get that for some it is just not that esoteric, but you should get that for many, it is.).
Again, still not sure what the question is. But no, it does not really matter anyone's gender or sexual preference, in my rope life, unless all that is previously discussed, and usually explored, and most usually, until the knots are loosened. Sure, I've been fucked in rope - by a rigger I adore and trust, and with whom there had been plenty of lead up and conversation about it. Contrary to some fantasy of young men, it really does not work that you walk in the door with a backpack full of sexy rope, tie her up, fuck her, and leave. There's just so much before and most especially, after care, involved in rope alone. add fucking, and you may as well triple that.
If you are not imminently patient and skilled, the gender, nor orientation, of the people on either end of the rope is immaterial - whether there is a clothing barrier or not.
Did I mention the pure art aspect of rope?
that's most of my opinion - for what it's worth.
zara
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