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3 years ago •
Apr 8, 2021
@bnjrdsl, you mean "doms"? Or "horny men"? Or "sharks"?
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| BNJRDSL(dom male) |
3 years ago •
Apr 8, 2021
@cutesexyintelligent
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| dom daddie(dom male) |
3 years ago •
Apr 8, 2021
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ask him questions that you want answers to. how many years have you been in this and the age the older the better.
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SubtleHush(sub female)
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3 years ago •
Apr 13, 2021
Some areas have more options than others. I don't know about Spain. You can search groups on fetlife (no I don't get money for mentioning them.) They have groups for areas countries and many groups are doing zoom meetings until things open up.
You can also find learning and support groups like MAST which is an international organization. And others. Then you can look at profiles and see what the people in a group are interested in before you get involved. And although this should go without saying..... people who sit in wait for posts like yours just so they can say something clever like, "Hey message me." Yeah... don't message them. (trust me on this) ............. dom daddie(dom male) "ask him questions that you want answers to. how many years have you been in this and the age the older the better." ................ Yes, I started asking those who approach, how many previous long-term relationships have they had in the lifestyle. Like 4 years or more. Not many have and they are here looking to start their dream of kink. Not what I want. But asking those questions are a good thing. But also learning on your own as well. Else you won't know who is handing you a line of BS. Amazon has a large library of BDSM related things. Dom Sub relationsbhips and technical books. But i suggest you avoid the fantasy. |
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Miki(masochist female)
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3 years ago •
Apr 13, 2021
Re: reply dom daddie wrote: ask him questions that you want answers to. how many years have you been in this and the age the older the better.
A good question might be how many subs he has gone through. While having had many is not automatically an issue, it can sometimes indicate that his approach to domdom might not have been well-received by his subs. On the other hand if he had few but long term subs... that he's a mature fellow and is available.. What happened there? I mean there will be times when either or both simply outgrew their dynamic. Happens all the time even in "vanilla" relationships, of course but a handy guideline with an experienced and older anyone is "They could be single for a reason." * * * * * Older the better, generally true but too many candles on the cake and you might end up with Cool Hands Luke. Cold hands are a total buzz-kill! |
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3 years ago •
Apr 13, 2021
Atina, the problem with local groups, like munches etc. is that the population of who you will actually meet in person is going to be extremely limited. This is why, among other reasons, years ago I chose not to 'seek' in person. It takes a lot of time and you will make friends, but hard to find a good match. Online, although with it's own problems, is an unlimited supply of choices (extreme vetting required).
Neither is perfect. The online formula that has worked best for me has been something like this: Make contact hundreds, chat with dozens, select a handful to get to know closely, meet with a few, select the one. It's a classic marketing funnel approach.... Good luck! |
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| RaeofSunlight{Mated} |
3 years ago •
Apr 13, 2021
Thank you so much for posing this questions and thank you to most of you who had something to say. I am also new to the scene and I never thought about developing friends and camaraderie in this area of my life. I felt very alone. Now I feel at least there are some decent proactive ways to go about meeting new people with the same interests in my community instead of hiding behind a profile on a website. Thank you.
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