Negotiation 101

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker}	Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} 3 years ago • Apr 21, 2022 3 years ago • Apr 21, 2022 Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Apr 21, 2022 ► IronWorld wrote: I will never apologize for my sense of humor. Glad you clarified your intent. ?

Zelia

3 years ago • Apr 21, 2022

► IronWorld wrote:

► Bunnie wrote:

Here is a scene negotiation checklist:

https://occs.cs.oberlin.edu/~dockhorn/jay.pdf

Under pain, I would change the answers to: No 1 2 3 4 5 (1 being low impact, 5 being hit me with your best shot)

The favorite hobbies thing under the dom and sub thing is unnecessary. IMO, that kind of thing is best left to personal conversations. Instead of this perhaps a mood setting section: what music is being played during a scene? Lighting? Scented candles? Pentagrams? Livestock?

What does "In case of crisis Yes No" mean?

An Aftercare section would probably be helpful as well.

There is a bit about aftercare. It is crap and doesn’t even remotely resemble aftercare. It’s called ‘follow-up’ in the document.

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker}

3 years ago • Apr 21, 2022

► JustAlice wrote:

There is a bit about aftercare. It is crap and doesn’t even remotely resemble aftercare. It’s called ‘follow-up’ in the document.

Even as a newbie over 25 years ago, I found Wiseman pedantic (in the extreme) and my opinion hasn't changed, but as we all know, YKINMKBYKIOK. ?

(Some people do treat him as a BDSM god however—different strokes for different folks)

NCarraway(dom male)

3 years ago • Apr 22, 2022

Hi Bunnie,

I wrote this piece a year ago on a structured approach to entering Ds dynamics (especially aimed at the inexperienced).

I personally like the structured approach as it means things don't fall through the cracks.

https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=12718&postid=54249

Carraway

Bunnie	Bunnie 3 years ago • Apr 22, 2022 3 years ago • Apr 22, 2022 Bunnie • Apr 22, 2022 Hi NCarraway, Awesome, thank you for your contribution