Butt Plugs and Anal Play

SageFlame​(sub female) • May 17, 2024

I read the book The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women long before I knew anything about BDSM. You have some good advice here but a comprehensive book is nice to have on hand. It covers stages of readiness and how to become attuned with your own body in amore intimately way. We are not all put together the same way and what works well for one may not be agreeable to others.

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JenX • May 17, 2024

Personally, I'd start with the smallest silicone butt beads you can find and silicone friendly lube that is designed for anal. Anal lube has a thicker viscosity and last longer than vaginal lube. I'd also recommend starting with self play, because you'll be more relaxed and less self-conscious as you take those first steps into your back door. Butt beads are great for beginners because the sphincter only widens for a moment and rest on a narrow silicone "thread."

Step 1. Get your gear together. You'll need a towel for under your bottom, warm wet wash cloth, butt beads, and lube.
Step 2. Lube your beads, your anus, and briefly insert a lubed finger tip into your sphincter.
Step 3. Proceed to masturbate in your favorite fashion until you are half way home.
Step 4. Insert one bead in your back door while fingering or ringing your "door bell". You want to push out like you're voiding, while pressing the bead inwards. Breath. Focus on your "door bell" a sec, and now insert another bead. Repeat with remaining beads or keep ringing your "door bell" until you finish.
Step 5. Remove beads. Now, beginners may wish to finish, then remove beads. The real treat with butt beads is practicing until you can remove the beads WHILE you finish!
Step 6. Bliss
Step 7. Clean up. Remember, anything the beads bring out with them is water soluble. Cleanse beads with soap and thoroughly rinse.

Hope this helps give you another idea.

Note: Its always been my practice to not allow anything that's been thru my backdoor into my front door to prevent infections.

Sculpther​(dom male) • May 17, 2024

Very well said and I have always found that when you're with a partner, copious amounts of foreplay prior to copious amounts of lube to be a winning combination.

Miki​(masochist female) • May 18, 2024

..... Half a can of Crisco works in a pinch...


(Of course not, but the topic of water base vs oil base is already covered in earlier posts so I'll not repeat all that.)

Nuts Milk • May 20, 2024

You just said "the anus has three chambers the last one is pretty clear..."
Can you expand the idea? Do you refer the three parts of the colon (ascending, transversal and descending)? Or the rectum itself ? (which people know it is single-chambered)...

dressmeup​(sub male)​{? } • Jul 6, 2024

Hi. I've been using a enema bag since my early teens. It was my mom's under the bathroom sink. I always clean myself out before any backdoor playing with myself or taking a man's cock or a strap-on. I prefer to have them stay still as I hold his cock or i hold a toy and work myself onto whatever is going in me . Once I get myself use to it then I can make it enjoyable and then they can take over if I'm being fucked. Of course lube and that can be man made lube or if I'm giving oral and he has a lot of pre cum I that and put on my hole and again I turn around and work myself onto his cock.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jul 6, 2024

Treat it like basic fingerings. Start with a finger, work up to 2, then try a plug.

Re: Butt Plugs and Anal Play

roughandtumbler​(sub female) • Jul 7, 2024

Okay here is my tip. I’ve recently gotten into anal play. Here’s what worked. Use progressive plugs. Lube up! And I use a vibrator when I’m being stretched or engaging in anal swx. It relaxes everything and opens everything up. Contrary to popular belief, standing from behind is not the best position. Try your side. Lastly, if it’s a real stretch, clamp down for 10-20 seconds and release. Keep doing it til the plug or penis is in. Enjoy! Anal is so fabulous. Can’t endorse it enough.

Texasloverdom​(dom male)​{For you.} • Nov 4, 2024

It amazes me how our society has evolved into almost touch free and feel free one. I respect previous post but frankly I don’t agree with what I gleaned from some. If your just curious and wanna play with you’re asshole then by all means use whatever feels good to you. The learning years are the best, alone or not. We here in Texas say “hold my beer” among others. I don’t know how much of your writings on this site they read but I came here specifically to check you out. I have been awol several months. She decided she wanted to sit and rock so all she had was that mentality and tons of meaningless sex she thought was kinky. I decided to slip in and see what you’re all about. Because you’re a fellow Lone Star I’m gonna give you what has worked every time from the time I was 19 on leave in El Paso all the way to the previous lg before the aforementioned. All this talk, although true, is for everybody else. This parts for you and very true. Dickin’ with newbies in the “bed grappling”situation you’re asking about, is not recommended. That’s how you go from curiosity to fk that sht in Mach speed. If you’re just wanting partners I say get busy and do what you like or want. But I (not bragging just stating what I know to be true) have a hot breath cold breath up close thing that will make you wiggle. To be straight serious and not fluffing, there’s not many that can deny my tongue works nor the consistency of my mouth lube. Talking and having knowledge is awesome. However you would never require lube. That craps nasty tasting and forces you body to not do it’s natural thing. Combined lines from two folks doing all the right things can’t be beat. Is more fun than a pump or squeeze from a tune. When I start up too by the time I take that body cruise with that man I’m your boat, unless you have a dry spell unrelated to our the situation at hand, you will be changing sheets. After I send you crawling up that headboard with your shoulder blades, don’t worry I have a “nice touch” when I drag you back down to center to flip you over and continue the journey I promise you won’t be thinking about or needing lube. I’m not sure why I’m seeing fellows talk about lube like that’s all they know. It’s in the whole spectrum of that moment in that bed where we are sharing so much more than just trying. I do guaranteed. We in Texas talk big about kissing kitty but few know what they are doing i.e. the lube thing. I hear it all the time. Guys get you’re tongues out. Here’s the Texas thang, if you’re mine I will know ahead of time what you are requesting. It would start when you’re eyes opened that morning with me looking deep into them with my shit Eaton’ greatest m. From that point they have to guess wi would do to you. Rest assured you would sleep very well that night. Maybe! I do enjoy me some kitty. I’m not sure your stamina but if it’s anywhere close to mine, we could roll through days of getting to know each other. Or at least me getting to know you. It’s important to know and enjoy every square inch of the girl I’m with. Unless! Pm me for the rest. I think that should be between myself my girl and the bedroom walls. Bedroom being loosely related to any position or place we may find ourselves in when we have the urge. To be honest my lifestyle switch is broke in the on position at all times. If you ask anybody that has known me more than a year, most can say I have that thing they can’t quite describe but can’t put their finger on it. See for me respect is woven into the fabric that is me. As is safety. I come from the days when supposed Doms were just taking subbs from other Doms. None even looked my way as far as I know. Respect on all levels until there’s none, that when things change. So the long winded answer is here,. The short answer iis if I met with you the trust would have already started to build. It would have to or we wouldn’t meet. The lifestyle is real and as for myself very healthy. There’s sooo much more than typing. So if you get wet, don’t even consider lube or really even worry about the size of the beads or plug. Either by the time it happened you would trust me or if I sensed you didn’t trust enough, it would go from what you desired to learn to hey if you haven’t reached the level of trust I think you should have I’ll prolong it but still stick my tongue in dark places. If somewhere in all this I peaked you’re curiosity, curiosity me on into the private conversation. As it should be. Hustle up there’s a lot to absorb between now and that time. Give it a think and let me know. I enjoy what I’ve read of yours and can tell there’s more here than healthy curiosity and brains to go with it. Talk to ya soon. J

shortylotus​(sub female) • Dec 10, 2024

Taking them out can be nightmare...I got so nervous I couldn't get it out...when I did it flew out of my hand and put a little dent in the wall...