Slaves finding Slaves for their Master

Grizzledoldman​(dom male) • Feb 25, 2025

It's a fascinating thought isn't it? Most responses seem to be answering the question of should a slave be sent to find an additional (or worse still, a new) slave for the Master. That answer is a simple "ick" in my mind. You want multiple slaves, way cool. Go find some that are happy to be "one of" Then introduce the new slaves with the existing and make it clear that they are all yours and will get along together. But do the work of finding additionals for yourself.

Having said that: Perhaps the Master has a slave who is also a switch or who is into a gender the Master is NOT into. Allowing the slave to go find their own slave or sub or playmate seems reasonable. Making it clear that the slave's first priority is to the Master and to their own slave second.

And with that last sentence we all (most of us anyway) came to the same conclusion: that is NOT going to end well. Absolutely not for the slave's slave, probably not for the slave, and the Master might also lose a slave. Power to a dynamic that can make that work, but I just can't see that making anyone happy or even satisfied for very long.

But what do I know?

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 25, 2025

I can only say my experience being approached in this way by slaves I know, and by online slaves.

If a slave was to approach me for her Master , it would instantly be a no for me. I’m serving the Master. I’m pretty sure I wanna know about the Master first.

On the other end of that, I’ve known slaves to do that and I’ve questioned why. The answer was because if the slaves don’t get along the Master is not happy. Most I know who have done this. It’s because they want to share the workload and the Master wanting another slave. but again that’s just my experience.

I know, or at least I feel that slaves are more comfortable talking to other slaves. It’s a comfort level I believe. That you would not be alone and if she can do it, it must be OK.
( that’s just a guess) but it could make the prospective Slave more comfortable?
Especially an inexperienced one.

Re: Slaves finding Slaves for their Master

Defender​(dom male) • Feb 25, 2025

[quote="TopekaDom". What I don't get is why the slave is doing the looking and not the Master. I think he is the one who should be putting in the effort, not making it a duty of his property.

What do you all think?"


I think it is none of my business.

If a Master or slave asks for my advice on the subject, then I will give it.

Otherwise, I think judging someone else's consensual relationship from a distance, is not something I should do.

Whether or not it gives me the ick.

Consider how many vanillas would get the ick from our BDSM relationships.......?

friendlyfire​(masochist female) • Feb 25, 2025

9 times out of 10 that "slave" is actually the Master is another account trying to triangulate you into his Karpman Drama. Don't entertain it. Low effort.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

MissBonnie​(dom female)​{oz} • Feb 25, 2025

When I first became poly with my primary (not poly partnered now). I did get him to sorta help. He just sent me links to profiles of people he'd stumbled on, that he thought may fit "our" criteria since I wasn't in this alone. The rest was then ALL me. Those then chosen where of course discussed.

Over the years I've ran into a lot of slaves looking for seconds for their owner. It always surprised me they did the pre screening and talked to the submissive, then presented them to the Dom/me. That part I never understood. Who is the second supposed to be pleasing here? the submissive or the Dominant?

Literate Lycan​(dom male) • Feb 26, 2025

Very much in line with the others who have responded, I find this a tad tawdry. I do enjoy whenever Miss Bonnie responds as I find myself agreeing and often learning and I like how she orchestrated her interactions in the past. Having buy-in from your partner is good and it ensures (as much as possible) all agree with the new coupling.

I tend to see a Dominant sending their submissive or slave out to "bring" someone into the family is very akin to grooming a prospective prey. Often when I've seen it in practice here on the Cage and elsewhere, the submissive or slave is "seeking a partner" for their Dominant. Like the Dominant directed them, "Do my laundry, cook dinner, and find me another sub."

It doesn't look very Dominant to me. Or powerful. It doesn't sit well with me, but I'm not judging. Wait, actually I am. But that's ok because they don't have to care what I think because there are no repercussions. In this area, I feel the Dominant should do their own work. And if they care about their dynamic, they will consider their partner (or partners') feelings when looking for a Unicorn.

Of course maybe if a Dominant reads this Forum post they might reconsider how it makes them appear to others before sending their submissive out to do their work.

Edit:


I agree with this and it's very much in line with what Miss Bonnie indicated above. But I see a distinction between the Dominant and submissive being in communication and agreement on who to bring into their dynamic and the submissive being sent out to find someone new for their Dominant or Master.

Miki​(masochist female) • Feb 26, 2025

I already posted here but 6 months ago and after having read further posts and over the passage of the months I have slightly different thoughts.

So, while I still believe that "If it darns your toe-holed socks, have at it." I realized after a time that sending a sub / slave out "recruiting" isn't what I'd expect from a dominant because while the two of them might have a harmonious dynamic, the sub / slave in question will likely have differing ideas on what the "master" would want.

Two parts of a dynamic-- or any relationship for that matter might have a whole lot in common but no two minds truly think "alike" in the strict sense of the word, so that sort of "delegating" might bring good results or it might not.

Personally, and just my opinion, a dominant / master ought go out and find their additional subs or slaves, whichever the case may be, for themselves.

Other than that, even merely being "sent out on errands" for Mister P is not anything I would be particularly good at. For example, give me your shoe size and send me out to fetch a pair and the unrepentant brat in me would get the right size, all right, ---but I'd also be sure to buy the cheapest, ugliest fucking dogs known to Western Man for the guy.

... but as with just about anything I digitally scrawl on these forum boards: "That's Just Me."

Little Vixie​(sub female)​{Mgh30} • Feb 28, 2025

Any time I've had a man have their female partner reach out to me to join them in their dynamic, it was an attempt for the man to not have to show how sleezy he was. The female partner would bype up how amazing this man was and by the time I met them, it slipped out that the man actually had the idea and the female wasn't down with it 100% or he was scummy and making her feel guilty about it. I had a woman tell me about how her man pushed the idea of a 3 some onto her and was making her feel really guilty for not being interested. Begged me to go talk to him because she "was most comfortable with me" and he sucked. Couldn't hold a conversation, whinned to his wife about how he wanted women to be falling over themselves to be with him. I attempted for 2 days to have a convo and it was by far an awful conversation.. She got pissy when I stopped reaching out to him because at the end of the day I don't Pine for men that do not have interest in me and I won't make your man feel wanted in that way because I wasn't the one who married him.

I just had a friend ask me to be a third in her and her new masters dynamic. It wasn't the first time she brought this up because her ex would beg to have a 3 some with her and a friend of hers. Never a "i want this", always a "he wanted me to ask". Got into a convo with this new master and he was the most disguisting pos I'd ever come across. First question to me was if I was on birth control. After that it was heavy flirty and when I told him he needed to respect me and my dom, it turned into him telling me that I'd please him and not to piss him off.

Low and behold, in my eyes I think these types of men hope that having a woman to go out and find a third will someone how cover how shitty they are.