BULL - Anyone Have Experience With One?

Villanelle​(staff) • Feb 17, 2025

We have a really interesting article on cuckolding in our Magazine that's worth a read if you are interested in the topic:

https://thecage.co/magazine,91.html

Also, our writer isn't fond of the term 'Bull' and explains why. Please do share your thoughts and opinions in the comments.

MiddleAgedHippie​(switch female) • Feb 20, 2025

I have one that I meet about once a week. It's been a game changer for our marriage. I was hesitant to try it a first but glad that I did. The reality is you need to be able to differentiate between love and pleasure. I had no problem with this because I love my husband very much. My bull can give some aspects of pleasure that my husband can't and as a whole the arrangement has worked well for us so far.

Steellover​(sub male) • Feb 20, 2025

Your second sentence is key: " Differentiating between love and pleasure." Very good point.

A long time ago, I had a conversation with this wonderful, beautiful, and amazing woman about this dynamic. She was a pro-domme who, (Sadly) lived in another city at least five or six hours away from where I live. She said that some people, like her, are able to compartmentalize their relationships in such a way that they can have a man (or more than one) whose sole role in her life is to provide sexual pleasure, while still maintaining a monogamous, loving, and emotionally intimate relationship with their committed romantic life partner. Yeah, "Monogamous" is perhaps a poor choice of words but I meant EMOTIONALLY monogamous. Her life partner, submissive, husband/boyfriend, etc. is, and always will be, #1 in her life- even if she has other men in her life purely for no-strings attached sex.

Not all women, and not all men either, are able to compartmentalize like this. For these people who cannot, and this probably encompasses most of the sexually "Vanilla" crowd, any kind of cuckolding or swinging in a relationship probably won't end well. You do definitely need to compartmentalize, differentiating between love and pleasure, to make a cuckold relationship work in the long term. For the "Cuck" male, it certainly helps- I would personally even say it's an essential part of the dynamic- if he derives a voyeuristic pleasure in seeing his wife/girlfriend being satisfied by another man.

jillyvalentine​(switch female) • Feb 20, 2025

I think he really wants to do it IRL and we use the fantasy to get off but I also think he wants me to leave him because he can't stand me and feels stuck - which then makes it hard to get into the fantasy even though I like it too... If I push past the worry then it's fun.

jillyvalentine​(switch female) • Feb 20, 2025

How did you get started and how did you find someone?

MiddleAgedHippie​(switch female) • Feb 21, 2025

I started a blog on this site that is detailing exactly how the process started and will eventually be current. It's a way that I can express my feelings on how it all started and continue to explore this lifestyle. I like writing about as a way of almost looking at it from a third person view as my husband/cuck would have seen it. I can learn from mistakes and gain insight on what I've done right.

RowanPoe​(kinky male) • Feb 22, 2025

Bulls are men who come in to take charge of a threesome. Often times the couple's man is Bi and wants to share in being a bottom with their woman. Some couples enjoy cucking which is another version of that situation where all the men are straight. Basically they want someone to take control.