magicHands(dom male)
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4 months ago •
Nov 7, 2025
Her dynamic meaning her feelings/reactions in general to the patterns they were experiancing. Nothing to do with the number of partners.
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SirsBabyDoll(sub female){🍕+☕}
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4 months ago •
Nov 7, 2025
Very good.
My previous opinion regarding the affects of rise of feminism on gender roles and behaviors still holds then. In THIS case, I do not believe they apply. |
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Heart of Persephone(sub female){Self owner}
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4 months ago •
Nov 8, 2025
► Anna Lynn wrote: {”I always put my partner’s through a “test” if you will, I push and push their buttons until they give in to me and I top them or, or which has never happened, I’m treated like a bratty sub and punished which satisfies me more. Am I just more dominant leaning and wanting to be a sub or just haven’t met my ideal dom?-”}
You aren't going to like my response. In fact, I may get roasted for it but I accept that. I've been treated like this before and it is horrible. No one deserves this unless they want it. Pushing a person’s buttons until they finally get angry and respond is called reactive abuse. Furthermore, it is all about you and not this idea of finding “ the right dom”. You don't have the right to do that to another person because you have this misguided need to get a reaction out of someone. Selfish. Either you want to submit or you don't. It is not anyone elses responsibility nor their duty as a Dominant person to “make” you. Figure out who you are and what you want and stop putting your burdens on the shoulders of people who don't ask for it. Well said |
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Anna Lynn
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
I just came back to say that I have absolutely no issue with brats. Really, I don't.
I know my post was a bit harsh but the testing and pushing of buttons is dangerous. With the right person who has given their consent, great. Carry on. But with the wrong person, if she is lucky all she will get is a broken heart. If she isn't so lucky, she can end up in the ER or worse. There are people in this world who react violently to having their buttons pushed. Be careful what you ask for. |
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SirsBabyDoll(sub female){🍕+☕}
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
► Anna Lynn wrote: I just came back to say that I have absolutely no issue with brats. Really, I don't.
I know my post was a bit harsh but the testing and pushing of buttons is dangerous. With the right person who has given their consent, great. Carry on. But with the wrong person, if she is lucky all she will get is a broken heart. If she isn't so lucky, she can end up in the ER or worse. There are people in this world who react violently to having their buttons pushed. Be careful what you ask for. I suspect that we may have a definition issue going on. Let me ask you this: When you are with your friends, have you ever played practical jokes or played around with words and innuendo? Probably. It's all meant to engage with the other person while pushing the edge of respect. When a Brat uses the terms "testing" and "pushing buttons", that's what is meant. The whole "button pushing" SHOULDN'T be done from a place of hatred or distain. It's SHOULDN'T be done from a place of disrespect. The goal is playful connection. By the sounds of it, it sounds like you hear those terms (button pushing/testing) and envision something done from a negative place. |
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Anna Lynn
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
Yes, when I initially read the words “testing” for a reaction I thought reactive abuse. I hope that isn't the case here.
I admit I don't know a lot about brats and the art of bratting so thank you for schooling me. In fact, I found your thesis on brats and I’ve started reading it. I appreciate the knowledge. There are so many facets to BDSM that Im still learning about because I never spent that much time online. I have my advanced in slavery (I think…) but I'm learning about the rest so thanks. |
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SirsBabyDoll(sub female){🍕+☕}
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
► Anna Lynn wrote: Yes, when I initially read the words “testing” for a reaction I thought reactive abuse. I hope that isn't the case here.
I admit I don't know a lot about brats and the art of bratting so thank you for schooling me. In fact, I found your thesis on brats and I’ve started reading it. I appreciate the knowledge. There are so many facets to BDSM that Im still learning about because I never spent that much time online. I have my advanced in slavery (I think…) but I'm learning about the rest so thanks. Anna, I hope that is the same as well. We don't know so it's all just speculation at this point. Schooling you? Lol....that's an old phrase to me "perform a disciplinary action". I think you mean "teaching me" or even better, "sharing your perspective". Language is so funny sometimes.... I should pin the first chapter of that series (now that we have that option ..I think). Please bear in mind two things. Firstly, it is my working hypothesis. You CANNOT take it for gospel (even tho I do). Even I have to remember that caveat and I'm working on removing any "gatekeeping" language from my speech since I don't own the rights to "Brattism" so once you read it, feel free to agree or disagree with it. Second, it's an unfinished body of work. The last chapter is so long that I had to break it up to what will eventually be three pieces ..but I've changed a lot since starting the work and so my writing voice has changed as well. I've also lost the motivation to finish it, which is sad, since the second part deal specifically presents my arguments involving bratting and PTSD. |
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Anna Lynn
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
It is my hope that in time your motivation will return as that sounds like an important topic. However don't be too hard on yourself as you have been through a lot and i know how it feels. Just need some time.
I am enjoying the read and so appreciative of the knowledge given. |
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SirsBabyDoll(sub female){🍕+☕}
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4 months ago •
Nov 9, 2025
Thank you. I'm glad you like it. I tried hard to make it entertaining AND educational.
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darlingdiana(sub female){Master Ron}
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4 months ago •
Nov 10, 2025
► Anna Lynn wrote: Yes, when I initially read the words “testing” for a reaction I thought reactive abuse. I hope that isn't the case here.
I admit I don't know a lot about brats and the art of bratting so thank you for schooling me. In fact, I found your thesis on brats and I’ve started reading it. I appreciate the knowledge. There are so many facets to BDSM that Im still learning about because I never spent that much time online. I have my advanced in slavery (I think…) but I'm learning about the rest so thanks. As you are learning Anna, in bratting it will be consistent arguments and corrections on telling you how it is, what it is and how to think or feel. The main and only take away I had was safety for these women, from what you said. Remember, everyone’s individual perspective in this behaviour not art- will be different. I don’t believe you have to explain learning, your experience, your knowledges, wording or cautious thinking for an individual safety concerns. Nor do you have to understand a brat to caution safety. I normally would not respond or be connected to these discussions or the topic. I think as a new member of a community and aiming for overall learning does not make you available for interpretation, “schooling” tantrums or discussion of your knowledge depth- nor a forced understanding of what “it’s all about” in this particular realm to provide safety alerts. If it were simply education, I believe it would have been privately shared after inquiries on your consent. I know 100000% there will be a response/s to my POV and the best I can provide to be helpful and remain polite is to point out the good you did say for the woman and thank you. I will not be responding beyond this post. I don’t reward or acknowledge behaviours- period. Thanks again for being a community advocate. |
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