Violent and taboo fantasies causing guilt trips + is it totally legal to fantasize?

femsissyedddie • Nov 15, 2022

Me Too.
I have guilted myself countless times, but then I realized there are so many others that feel the same.
That made me realize too that I am very lonely keeping these locked up.
I want to find someone that has the same thoughts.
Getting to share those I believe would be liberating.
I would easily give myself to a man like that.

It was done to me and I loved it. I have the same desires of doing to or having done to me.
I want to be free and have peace with it.

corruptedgirl​(sub female) • Nov 15, 2022

Hey!
I'm not sure if this part of your original post has been responded to yet so just wanted to add my ideas.

Fantasies that are in your head are legal because this isn't 1984 and we don't have mind police. And that goes for 'illegal' fantasises as well.

BUT in regard to sharing things online, even when it's exclusively with consenting adults, can be a bit murky.

The main issue is that most online platforms (including this one) are international and so the laws vary from country to country and even state to state.

This is especially tricky if your or the other person's electronic device was in the hands of someone else (partner, child, housemate, random person who stole your phone, etc) who then might read the content of your private messages and then draw the incorrect conclusions and take actions that don't need to be taken (like contacting police).

I can only speak for Australian laws because that's where I am, but I think the main thing you want to make sure of is that you have a secure and password protected platform so if your device ends up with anyone else, it's not something they can stumble upon. I would also encourage you to make it clear that both parties are consenting and that what you're engaging in is fantasy and you're not receiving threats or unwanted advances from the other party you're playing with.

It sounds obvious but sometimes we get a bit lax with these things, especially if we're operating on Horny Brain and then the shit can hit the fan.

I don't know if it helps but hopefully it does

Steellover​(sub male) • Nov 16, 2022

And I would add that I would under NO circumstances should anyone share anything that has to do with minors. This should go without saying.

That is illegal almost EVERYWHERE, and well that it should be. Plus, posting such content could potentially get the site owners in trouble as well (assuming they don't simply delete it as soon as they find it.)

WhatamIfightingfor​(dom male){CurvyB} • Nov 16, 2022

Even "Blazing Saddles" ran afoul of decency laws, that would be on the books for Pornography for decades after its release. Just be careful and respectful. You ever need to share. If you are seeking professional help for mental health problems still be careful, and think before you speak and talk, perception check frequently. Clear communication is important, as is phrasing. Be mindful or the law of the country you live in.

Curtain Call​(dom male) • Nov 17, 2022

I would not consider your fantasies a bad thing, in light of the fact that you recognize them for what they are.

That said, there are two things to consider. The first is that sometimes sexual fantasies can lead to sexual addiction and/or problems if they are the only thing that gets you off. This can limit the amount of actual pleasure you experience and cause various forms of anxiety. If that starts to become the case, I'd recommend talking to a licensed and open-minded sex therapist.

The other thing to consider is that many, many sex acts or sexual expressions are illegal in various places. It just depends on where you live, and often what county you're in. Believe it or not, oral sex and adultery are illegal in some places while prostitution and some abuse is not. It depends on where you live and who's making your laws.

In short, if you find someone to express these desires with through narrative, I wouldn't consider that alone bad. Just do your research and make sure that it won't come back to haunt you psychologically or legally. All of that depends on you and where you live.