slutboymartin(sub male){No}
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4 months ago •
Aug 26, 2025
Hi..
I was recently affected very badly not once but twice by these people, I had one keeping me on the hook to Her for several months me (like an old fool) believing in every word of Her lies because i wanted to I guess but after 10 long years of having no Mistress to help Guide me, Love Me & Allowing me to Serve & follow Her i was very easy to make believe. These Scumbags talk of deepest Love & as a Man who is Honest about feelings You can't believe that anyone could be so cruel & hurtful, but unfortunately there's no low that these people will go to... After being affected by not one but 2 of these Filthy Scumbags I mo longer wish to try anymore, so I'll probably be slone for what's left of my life even though I feel I still have do much left to give also I wanna say, what happend to me was not about these Scumbags wanting to like themselves more, it's All about scamming others for MONEY.. Whatever happened to liking people for who they are? Now, everyone (however unattractive) wants Money or as they call it a "TRIBUTE" just to talk to You... In my day that used to be called "PROSTITUTION"... And I Mean almost All Women now want Ca$H just to talk to them.... it's So Weird, it really is, it's Not About Domination or Fetish it's PROSTITUTION!!! Nothing more, nothing Less! Men, SYOP PAYING THESE PEOPLE!! THEY AINT DOMINANT, THEYRE JUST SCAMMERS! |
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Villanelle(staff)
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4 months ago •
Aug 26, 2025
If anyone asks you for money, gifts, to sign up for services or subscriptions, etc., please screenshot it and report it to us by visiting their profile and clicking on the 'report' button. This behaviour violates our rules and we will remove anyone who makes such requests. Requesting 'tributes' before interaction is not a 'thing', rather as stated above, it's a big red flag that the person is simply looking to exploit you.
Some of you might find our Magazine article on money and bdsm interesting.... https://thecage.co/magazine,252.html To all of you who take the time to report violations of our rules, thank you! You help keep the community safe. |
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NarahPrimal(sub female)
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4 months ago •
Aug 27, 2025
Through my short journey into the lifestyle I've come across alot but in saying that I've seen alot of submissives like this as well, maybe it's due to lack of education or sub frenzy or simply just for the kink.
I've found with me I can tell pretty much with in the first few minutes of talking, to me a real Dominant wants to get to know you before they even touch the kink side of things.. So many jump straight Into it or they seem ok but then you share a little and their gone.. Poof like magic lol. Must be put in their two hard basket. I guess to me I look for someone who wants to know me as a person first and find that connection. If not realistically it's just not going to happen and why waste each other's time. |
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slutboymartin(sub male){No}
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4 months ago •
Aug 27, 2025
Hiya..
In the last few months I've been contacted quite a few times by "Doms" saying they'd read my profile etc and wanted to know me, then being taken to other sites and almost immediately asked for money, in fact...not one has been real.. It's so dissapointing and the worst ones actually take time to get to know You before springing the 'Tribute' sting, I'd been speaking to one for about 2 months with Her even talking of love... It's Heartbreaking, She was in for the long haul and more money than most... Airfare from USA to UK.. it DID Hurt..a LOT Actually I thought I'd finally found someone.. These People are so Cruel! But... That's life! |
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LadySusweca(dom trans woman)
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4 months ago •
Aug 27, 2025
If people are asking you to go to another site then you know they are trying to get "tributes" or scam some other way.
To be fair, there are submissives who have done the same thing. |
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| Defender(dom male) |
4 months ago •
Aug 30, 2025
uncollaredkitten wrote: Defender wrote: [quote="Heart of Persephone"
That’s rather sad to have no expectations, a ho hum way of living. Expectations should always be right at the front, that and boundaries. Now if you are here just to play and get off then go on right ahead with zero expectations. It was advice I read on here several years ago, and it has served me well. As for complaining about insta Doms and fake Doms, there is poor behaviour on both sides of the slash. We can all complain about that, but it is unlikely to change anything. Just saying if you’ve been here for YEARS without a Sub currently owned the advice isn't serving you that well[/quote] On the contrary, it has served me very well. Whist I have had both subs and littles, it has allowed me to avoid subs who are "uncollared" for a reason. |
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| Defender(dom male) |
4 months ago •
Aug 30, 2025
Defender wrote: uncollaredkitten wrote: Defender wrote: [quote="Heart of Persephone"
That’s rather sad to have no expectations, a ho hum way of living. Expectations should always be right at the front, that and boundaries. Now if you are here just to play and get off then go on right ahead with zero expectations. It was advice I read on here several years ago, and it has served me well. As for complaining about insta Doms and fake Doms, there is poor behaviour on both sides of the slash. We can all complain about that, but it is unlikely to change anything. Just saying if you’ve been here for YEARS without a Sub currently owned the advice isn't serving you that well On the contrary, it has served me very well. Whist I have had both subs and littles, the advice I quoted has helped me to avoid subs who are "uncollared" for a reason.[/quote] |
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Whorgazmo(sub female)
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4 months ago •
Aug 30, 2025
It's really hard to get around the ones who have perfected their craft so it's a lot of frogs. I've been involved in this community for about 16 years now and the best advice I have is to 1.) make it as hard as possible for people to access you not only in-person but online as well. Men will drain your energy and feed off of it. Nothing is 'real' until you've met in-person. As well, 2.) gender roles apply first...the kink roles are irrelevant initially. Make them work for your time and escalate it little by little. The ones that are fake drop off quickly and/or don't show intention but they will drain you with endless talk before they do. 3.) Make them go to neutral ground of your choice for a first meeting. If they aren't investing money and time into you, within reason, they are looking for something short term. They shouldn't be getting jack squat from you, especially exclusivity, until they've invested to try and get to know you on your terms. 5.) Men will waste your time if you let them. Cut and run if there are glaring red flags. Move onto the next.
None of these makes finding the right person any easier it will just help you to save your energy from time wasters. |
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uncollaredkitten(sub female)
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4 months ago •
Aug 30, 2025
Defender wrote: Defender wrote: uncollaredkitten wrote: Defender wrote: [quote="Heart of Persephone"
That’s rather sad to have no expectations, a ho hum way of living. Expectations should always be right at the front, that and boundaries. Now if you are here just to play and get off then go on right ahead with zero expectations. It was advice I read on here several years ago, and it has served me well. As for complaining about insta Doms and fake Doms, there is poor behaviour on both sides of the slash. We can all complain about that, but it is unlikely to change anything. Just saying if you’ve been here for YEARS without a Sub currently owned the advice isn't serving you that well On the contrary, it has served me very well. Whist I have had both subs and littles, the advice I quoted has helped me to avoid subs who are "uncollared" for a reason. I’m confused. so you’re a cuck that goes after taken women..? Since you don’t go after single subs |
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beachflyer
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4 months ago •
Sep 1, 2025
Well we have all been there at one time or another and many of us have been ghosted me included, i tend to look at it as a lucky escape it just wasn't meant to be.
But sometimes life just gets in the way, i hurt my back really bad and spent a year or more learning to walk again never mind trying to type ,i have returned to working life, which is still chaotic and i don't get the time to talk online to others as much as i would like. It does hurt you when you open your heart to someone and you think that they want to get to know you and they just disappear or block you without saying why... it cut's like a knife to the heart ..but think of it this way it's their loss and you have probably had a lucky escape if they couldn't see you as a human being with real feelings, wants and needs then their just not worth the effort of even thinking about chalk it down to experance and watch for the signs because they all have the same Theam one way or another but you get the feeling early on that this person isn't what they seem and it's time to say to them thanks but no thanks this is going nowhere. |
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