At which age did you realize your submission or Dominance?

Ehmma • Oct 25, 2020

Well, unconsciously, from a very young age, I played tying my wrists.
Then at 17 some friends tied me up playing and they played with me for a while, after that I started looking on the internet, watching movies of tied girls etc etc

Mystery Man​(dom male) • Feb 12, 2021

Now this sounds like some fun! Would love to chat and hear more about you! See my profile on how to contact me.

spankmechokeme​(switch female) • Feb 12, 2021

I was probably 18 maybe younger. I tie alot of childhood trauma to it but it didn't come til full twist until I got with my first dom. He was good to me. Bedroom time would be different at times. Didnt ever pressure me. Was roughly gentle. Made me aroused in ways I thought didn't exist. Then just went from there. Some bad some okay. But haven't had a great one since him. And that was in my early 20s. I'm 33 now.

ToasterTwinkie​(sub trans man) • Feb 12, 2021

I've had ~spicy~ fantasies since I was little: getting tied up, tortured, brainwashed, kidnapped, etc.. When I hit my teen years they started to turn into more explicitly sexual fantasies. I didn't realize till a couple years ago (I'm 23 now) that these fantasies aren't mainstream. Apparently not everyone wants to be tied up and brutally ravished? Who knew.

Looking back I realize why my favourite scenes in the Princess Bride were the ones where Wesley gets tortured.

ChristmasEve​(other female) • Feb 12, 2021

This resonated with me a lot. I've also found myself looking back at fantasies from my young teens and realizing they were certainly not mainstream! I've been curious to find out more about BDSM for a year or so, and only just plucked up the courage to peek behind the curtain.

SubmissiveUnicornUwU​(sub female){Permanent } • Feb 13, 2021

When I was 16 one of the older guys at my work (early 20s) lent me the Anita Blake series by Laurell K Hamilton. Soon as her character Nathaniel made his appearance my fate was sealed. I realize now said dude was a fake Dom grooming me. Luckily I had a boy friend at the time who was an ACTUAL Dom who scared him off.

Lockhurt • Feb 13, 2021

26 when I realized I loved sex with my gf at the time. She was a sub female and I didn't know it nor did I think I was a Dom male.

LilMissB​(masochist female){Tradesman} • Feb 13, 2021

14, when I first discovered BDSM and watching the videos I did, I found myself desiring to be the person serving, submitting, sitting at the feet of another person, receiving the punishment.

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Feb 13, 2021

When I was thirteen years old, I began to consider that most of my sexual fantasies at the time touched on overpowering my partners, either through physical superiority or intelligent manipulation. I would be turned on watching horror films, seeing attractive women in predicament and their vulnerability. As I got older and began to date, I explored these interests as much as I could. My partners, whether kinky or not, always seemed to appreciate my pursuits and their own involvement. Once I met my current nesting partner, we came together with mutual interest and our own experiences with kink and began to develop a relationship in with kink played a greater role. We had a series of experimental dynamics, never quite finding the full contentment (her little typically felt unfulfilled, as did my sadist) until we began to explore polyamory and found that once the unnecessary pressure of being the sole provider for one another was no longer there, we were able to freely explore the interests we shared and have built an eccentric and highly fulfilling connection alongside our vanilla relationship.

Miki​(masochist female) • Feb 13, 2021

14 maybe 13.. I was not abused by anyone .. I just was turned on by pain with sex.