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Tnjoker
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:14:40 PM IST

What makes a good Dom

Tnjoker • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:14:40 PM IST
Let me apologize in advance if this question has already been asked and answered but it has been weighing heavily on my mind and i wanted to ask the very knowledgeable group here to shed some light please. In your opinion, what makes a good Dom? I know that is a very broad question but i welcome all the thoughts. If anyone wishes to reach out to me to discuss further I would be happy to talk too anyone.

Thanks in advance
Chris
Asteria​(sub female)
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:30:08 PM IST
Asteria​(sub female) • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:30:08 PM IST
Openness; honesty; integrity; empathy; ability to listen; willingness to learn; accountability; patience...

That's for starters icon_smile.gif
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Tnjoker
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:49:16 PM IST
Tnjoker • Tue 05 Feb 2019 03:49:16 PM IST
Thank you Asteria for your input. I agree 100%
Kara​(sub female){Enslaved}
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:19:37 PM IST
Kara​(sub female){Enslaved} • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:19:37 PM IST
Appreciation for the submissive as a person. I am always amazed at the little things that he does to show interest outside the dynamic, such as knowing my preferences and taking steps to make sure that I am well cared for in ways that show he truly cares for the whole me.
GandolphThe8​(dom male){Sweetgingr}
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:49:10 PM IST
GandolphThe8​(dom male){Sweetgingr} • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:49:10 PM IST
I agree with Kara and Asteria both, with the caveat that what separates a really good dom from the crowd is good communication skills that begin with listening skills. Communication is the exemplification of respect, honor, and integrity.
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY }
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:51:39 PM IST
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } • Tue 05 Feb 2019 04:51:39 PM IST
Yes those are good starters. Also i think that a good dom depends on the sub also. Only meaning what is a good dom for one sub isnt always a good dom for another.

Just my two cents.
Tnjoker
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 06:56:27 PM IST
Tnjoker • Tue 05 Feb 2019 06:56:27 PM IST
I am so glad you said that alawey. So many seem to forget that part. So if a Dom and his submissive have an understanding and it doesnt take away from the relationship that we have, just because others don't like it does that mean that one is a bad Dom ?
Loulou​(sub female){( owned)}
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 07:31:48 PM IST
Loulou​(sub female){( owned)} • Tue 05 Feb 2019 07:31:48 PM IST
For me communication is key and consistency.
A true teacher and guider of roles and responsibilities expected of the submissive.
Last of all patience is important too.
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY }
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 07:47:30 PM IST
alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } • Tue 05 Feb 2019 07:47:30 PM IST
Tnjoker wrote:
I am so glad you said that alawey. So many seem to forget that part. So if a Dom and his submissive have an understanding and it doesnt take away from the relationship that we have, just because others don't like it does that mean that one is a bad Dom ?

I think that while that is true , there are things to look at for. For example there is a HUGH difference between being a Sadist and an Abuser, along with there being a HUGH difference between Changing someone and Helping them grow.

There are blogs an forums that show these. Having been posted by many of us here.

But then i also think that there is a HUGH difference between a lifestyle Dom and a kinkester dom. But again just my two cents.
Tnjoker
2 weeks ago • Tue 05 Feb 2019 08:25:27 PM IST
Tnjoker • Tue 05 Feb 2019 08:25:27 PM IST
Ok let me say this.... at no time have i ever intentionally hurt, abused, or degraded a submissive outside of her wishes. I know there is a high difference and that is a line that i will never cross.