|Chocolate Thunder(dom male)||
Long distance Dom/sub needs advice on keeping the fires goin
6 months ago • 11/08/2019 6:37 pm
Chocolate Thunder(dom male) • 11/08/2019 6:37 pm
I have meet my ideal sub. She is smart, beautiful, very willing. She has a bit more experience than I do in the lifestyle, yet she is willing to submit to me. Unfortunately, it is going to mostly be distance at this point due to the logistics of where we both live. The goal is to meet but that is not going to be very soon. She has been craving to be a sub to a Dom for years (10 to be exact) and when we met, she had resigned that it would forever be void in her life.
Anyway, I have been looking around to find advice on how to handle a distance sub and advice is varying and not always helpful. So i figured, I would formulate my own question here and see the responses.
Thinks I know about her (her words):
"I want, need, crave the strong male/Dom who understands that i don't always want to be in charge. I work, take care of bills buy groceries, and get my own orgasms. I make the decisions, and spend my time between work and home. There is no one concerned(for lack of a better word) with me....how am i, what makes me happy/sad/excited/scared. What drives me, motivates me, makes me better. i am a very strong woman...i have had to be. But i can also by my own worst enemy. i can get overwhelmed, spin my wheels, procrastinate.
An ideal situation would be for someone to hold me at night, show me the passion that i used to have, make that mental and emotional connection and a Dom/sub can have. Help me become the best person that I can be. Teach me, encourage me, discipline me, hold me accountable, love me. Make that connection with me. I crave a strong hand, a firm hold, a hair tug, a nibble, nip, bite. A smack on the behind or two or ???? when needed. I want rules and consequences. I do not want to top. I want to be held accountable as much as I can be in my situation."
There are children in here home (8 being the youngest) so anything we do has to be vanilla enough to not impact the children.
Anyone who has successfully navigated this, please post. I would love to pick your brains and hear some of your stories from both sides Dom and sub so that I can make this work for both of us.
Thanks in advance and I look forward to seeing what comes from the community.