Never masturbates !?!

Prolactin release...

NCarraway​(dom male) • Apr 14, 2021

@acquiesced I would be grateful of a useful reference if you have one...

yourbootsownme​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

Aside from religious beliefs, etc. allow me to offer a different possible explanation. Part of this may be depression-related.

During my first marriage (which I finally broke down last year and catalogued in a memoir - not about this topic in particular, but that whole relationship) my wife had a number of physical illnesses and severe mental issues. There was a period of longer than three years where we were not sexually intimate with each other (and it was infrequent during other shorter periods), and after the first year or so of that I simply stopped masturbating. It wasn't - as I remember it - a conscious choice. At first I was just too miserable and depressed to bother, and later I realized that allowing my sex drive to shut down entirely helped me deal with the situation better.

It didn't last forever, and eventually that drive came back in full force, but for a guy in his late 20's I imagine it wasn't a typical position to take.

yourbootsownme​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

Oh, and P.S. it also depends on your definition. I often arouse myself with no intention of bringing it all the way to climax. Tease/denial is a big turn-on for me and I suppose that gets incorporated into my self-pleasure too. So does that count as masturbating (especially with no direct contact with my cock or balls)? I think it does, but someone else may think not and therefore they'd say it isn't masturbating.

Re: Prolactin release...

acquiesced​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

I'll find some links when I have more time, but this graph will sum it up in a nutshell. I offer this as an explanation based on my own experiences. This is what male chastity is all about (except that the porn/meme/linkbait industry has, pardoned the expression, 'ruined' the whole concept).

The only change I would make to the graph is instead of "Orgasm" I would label it "Ejaculation" because those two actions are very different when it comes to brain chemicals. Prolactin is released under ejaculation only, and THAT is a whole 'nuther topic too.

https://qph.fs.quoracdn.net/main-qimg-5e653fcfe5cfe60f97fc59c01dcba7f6

acquiesced​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

And I can orgasm with my cock completely flaccid, does that count?

Dominus eius​(dom male){LittleLott} • Apr 14, 2021

It’s interesting reading this one - and where it’s deviated from the original post.

Adding my tuppence (as apposed to Miki’s $0.02).

1 - Since delving further into this lifestyle I have found my primary driver is less about my own orgasm than it used to be. If I’m running a good impact session, then my focus and satisfaction comes from that and my sub’s reactions, more than then my own need to orgasm.

2 - My drive to masturbate has lessened - not directly because I’m getting more sex (as I can “take” my sub whenever I want) - see point 1.

Now, part of point 2 may be connected to COVID as I am very rarely alone at home now......

Miki • Apr 14, 2021

Umm.... I can only go by second-hand info of course but logically, if you blow your wad after playing with it, yes it would count as masturbation.

I think beating an "off-duty"dong is what they call "choking the chicken" instead of "pounding the hammer".

Just a guess.

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In answer to @ yourbootsownme, being depressed or miserable will definitely kill the mood.

As I say elsewhere, and yours was not the same situation as mine although the effect was similar, I am a depression patient (non-bipolar) on an effective anti depressant regimen but at times I'm still a bit blue, and it makes it harder for me to get off, and in fact, during those phases I'm disinterested in play time altogether.

I imagine it is a degree more difficult for men because being miserable and depressed (even without being a depression patient) will of course adversely affect the ability to get a rise out of a "situation".

I'll add that like what you experienced, putting erotic thoughts and activities on hold helped me better focus on and resolve whatever situation that made my day "cloudy" so to speak.

Take heart! You're in your 20s.. Nothing will keep you from standing tall for very long.

yourbootsownme​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

Miki wrote: "Take heart! You're in your 20s.. Nothing will keep you from standing tall for very long."

Ha, that was decades ago. Although at times it fees like five years. Writing the book sharpened my memories of those years (but they've always been pretty clear; I am blessed/cursed with a very accurate and vivid memory).

Miki • Apr 14, 2021

Sorry my bad. I sometimes fall into the habit of skimming a post a bit too fast and certain aspects... ummm... stand out.. more than others and didn't notice that by context you were mentioning something of the past. But in general, any guys in that age bracket, or even earlier, will have no trouble returning to normal function once a negative situation is resolved.

I also have that kind of memory.. I'm a storehouse of basically useless trivia. But it has an upshot. Good material at parties if it's not too esoteric.

Example of one I doubt anyone else would recall, when I was a lot younger I used to stay up (when my parents weren't paying attention) and watch Tonight Show with Leno and there was a bit about someone in Florida claiming a miracle, that they saw the face of Jesus on a potato chip. Leno reponded, straight-faced, "If you're seeing Jesus on your potato chips, you're probably having a heart attack."

I loved that one, wish they had a clip but alas even the mighty and all-encompassing YouTube doesn't have it.

But back on track, I'm glad you wrote memoirs! I probably should but it would be a bear to come up with an appropriately witty but not worn out title.

Not that anyone would trouble themselves to read all that crap.

yourbootsownme​(sub male) • Apr 14, 2021

Miki wrote: "But back on track, I'm glad you wrote memoirs! I probably should but it would be a bear to come up with an appropriately witty but not worn out title.

Not that anyone would trouble themselves to read all that crap."

I doubt more than 100 people will ever read my latest. The first one (which is even more poorly written) probably found 500 sets of eyeballs, mainly because the topic is more interesting to them. And who would have thought a book about prison would be LESS depressing than one about a marriage? Hahaha.

And yes, useless trivia master. Plus memories of little one liners and quotes that nobody else can relate to. I use them anyway, since my target audience is me. I suppose it might have come in handy if I'd had made it onto Who Wants to Be a Millionaire. I tried out at a local screening when it was at its peak. I was told later that I scored highest on the written test (out of the people who came in, maybe 150) but that I probably would never be contacted because "to be honest, the whole reason we're doing these local groups is to find someone other than white guys with glasses." Which I could respect. I **did* win Strip Trivia on a Dallas radio station once...

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but back on topic, I think there are more people than anyone realizes who simply do not masturbate. And I imagine a lot of them have no real idea why they don't. They just don't.