SubtleHush(sub female) |
2 years ago •
May 12, 2021
2 years ago •
May 12, 2021
SubtleHush(sub female) • May 12, 2021
OraclePollon​ I find your initial post confusing. Could be that 3 cups of coffee is just not enough for me when I wake at 4 am against my will. But it seems to me that you are drawing lines in your questions that presume exclusive concepts. Not all things are mutually exclusive. At least to me. I would say reposit the question as if you were asking children. (not a slap at anyone at all) I think when we get too broad or explain in too many directions we leave so much to the reader that we don't get the answers we expect.
.................. Here is my general answer relating to what we choose for ourselves or how we see the impact of those choices. (That is my moral and ethical responsibility to myself and my moral and ethical responsibility as a good citizen.) All of life is a consumer issue for me. In the role of consumer, my concern is what I invest my time, energy, and equity in. At this stage of life, I am a seasoned consumer. I've bought cheap and often. I've spent a lot and got good value or ripped off. I've gone "all-in" and lost in the end. So my choices are based on experience, need, and a personal valuation. No different than you earning the money you spend at the store. It's all about ROI = return on investment. So my bad investments make me shy away from new bad investments in situations or people. My good investments make me look closer at other like-type investments. We all choose who we interact with. If you go to NYC you have chosen to be mixed in with lots of people. A choice. If you get lost (i sure do) your willingness to get lost means you know you will have to choose to ask someone for directions. I am asthmatic and a cancer survivor. Thus I have chosen not to date or get involved with smokers. If I wasn't a cancer survivor or asthmatic it is STILL my prerogative to avoid smokers. Do I get to go slap cigarettes out of a stranger's hand when I encounter a smoker? Of course not that is about being respectful of that person's right to choose. But in no way am I obligated to endorse his/her smoking. I've had a lot of loss in my life. Between family members and two Dominant partners whom I loved dearly. In each case, there were choices and circumstances made by those people that became factors in their passing. It is my prerogative to not date or get involved with people who also make those same choices. I had a brief dating period with an incredibly obnoxious salesman. He accused me of being "afraid to fall in love". I'm good with love, I'm not good with people who bully and pressure you into giving them what they want. I explained that, but it was easier for him to make it my problem rather than own his obnoxiousness. Am I obligated to stay in the relationship until he is ok with my leaving? No, I am not and there are reasons for that. I am not here to endorse obnoxious behavior. I am allowed to be happy and safe when in the company of others. Once I've given a polite "no thank you" I owe you no other explanation. My life model includes some rules. I don't try to explain the truth to a liar. I don't offer logic to irrational people. I don't preach safety to dangerous folks. I don't subjugate my rights for the wants of others. Radical stuff for a submissive to say? Maybe. But not if you grasp the real heartbeat of submission. All of these examples in my world are consumer issues. You want my time, money, emotions, or ahem... the cookie- you have to be what I want. Just as I have to be what you want. .................. Moral decency is a different thing and a much longer post. It's too subjective an area to get agreement. Religious people see that differently. Hellz bellz, religious wars were all seen as moral and decent depending on how the people justified themselves. And while some will say there is no one definition, there are to a point. Everything in life has a baseline even subjective things. Those who rebuke that, would probably not grasp my answer anyway. H* |
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