Jack of all doms(dom male)
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3 years ago •
May 18, 2021
For me it's about dominance and sadism
3 years ago •
May 18, 2021
As a dom I enjoy it on two levels: one, as a dominant side and two, as more of as my sadist side. I also need a partner who enjoys this as well, I've had partners who 'grin and bared it' for me and I've found, while appreciated the gesture, I could not truly enjoy it unless my lover was at least being satisfied. I just can't let go and get into a kink if I know my partner isn't enjoying herself as well, maybe not as much as me, but at least enjoying it on she level beyond pleasing me.
I love overpowering my partner physically. I need her to resist me, dominating without resistance is not very satisfying. I require a worthy opponent. Yes, that means she will occasionally successfully fight me off; after all what thrill is there in winning if you know you can't ever lose or draw? I don't expect her to dominate me however, since I prefer submissives, and they generally aren't interested in being dominate, even temporarily, of their partner.
I guess this also the primal/prey side of my sexual desires as well as matching wills and physical and mental strength with my partner is like stalking them as well and then showing them my love by taking her down and making love to her.
The second part is the sadism side of my kink. I enjoy using pain as a method to bring my lover to climax and greater orgasms. Of course, I also find inflicting pain and exercising control through the pain is an aphrodisiac for me and gets me aroused as well. I love testing my partners limits within her boundaries and helping her push her limits. The trust required for her to let me do this also turn on.
The role playing possibilities also can quite a turn on as well to say nothing of the useful ways wrestling can lead to other arousing BDSM possibilities such as breath play, nipple or breast pain, physical control, etc., etc.
The trick is finding someone open to it and will let you earn their trust as any thing that involves pain and possible loss of control requires your partners explicit trust.
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