4 days ago • 10/12/2021 1:58 pm
BadBloodThirty(dom female) • 10/12/2021 1:58 pm
I’ve been looking on the internet for some advice on female dom/ male sub relationships and ended up here. I hope you can help me.
My boyfriend and I have been together for four years with two beautiful children. He has always been a little different than my other sexual partners, meaning he’s never really ‘rough’ with me. He’s a respectable guy, a little too nice for me in bed.
We have tried kinkier stuff and I’ve noticed that me taking the lead turns him on immensely. He has begged me a couple of times in bed to hurt him, which caught me off guard in the moment. I have already pegged him, fisted him in the past and he enjoys it a lot. The fact that he enjoys it turns me on more than the actual anal play (the pegging I liked, the fisting makes me uncomfortable- which I have told him). I do get turned on by him giving me his all.
This weekend we had a deep conversation about our sexual interests and he finally opened up to me that he wants to be dominated but he’s scared of my reaction.
Since we’ve done a lot of unusual stuff in bed and I love him dearly, I am willing to try that. HOWEVER I have no idea how to start this. I am not sure if it’s in my nature as well, I do not dislike the thought of it (seen some documentaries that I thought hmm, this is interesting) so I am willing to try. I know we should have another conversation about what he actually wants me to do specifically.
My question is, where to start? How to build this up?
I do am scared that if this doesn’t work out, our relationship wouldn’t work out so I feel slightly pressured, which I know is not healthy. I want to enter this with an open mind and give it a go.
I do not our first session to be super hardcore, I want to take baby steps.