Asexual lesbian

Asexual lesbian

Redneck Kitty​(sub female){(mdlg)} • Oct 14, 2021

Why are people so confused when I say I'm an asexual lesbian??
I really don't get it

ribbonbaby​(sub female){Guarded} • Oct 14, 2021

Because an asexual, as far as I am aware is someone with no sexual drive if any kind.
Whereas a lesbian, again to my knowledge, is someone sexually attracted to women.

One has no sexual drive, the other does.

Redneck Kitty​(sub female){(mdlg)} • Oct 14, 2021

Maybe in greysexual idk all I know is I absolutely love my gf but have no real desire to have sex with her. But kissing her is amazing!!

DrWakko • Oct 14, 2021

Maybe because your profile states you have a girl and boyfriend. Being on the asexual spectrum is one thing, but calling yourself a lesbian might confuse people.

Secret Mind​(dom male) • Oct 14, 2021

People might be getting confused because lesbians are women who are sexually attracted to only other women.
Being asexual means you are not physically and mentally sexually attracted to anyone and have no desire for sex.
So when you say that you're a lesbian. Your saying that you're only sexually attracted to women. But your also saying you're asexual. Meaning your not sexually attracted to anyone and have no desire for sex.
There's a difference between being sexually attracted to someone and a difference between seeing them as a friend.

DrWakko • Oct 14, 2021

Note: being asexual or being on the asexual spectrum and sexual attraction have nothing to do with each other. You can be a male and asexual and want relationships with other men, or women or both. Asexuals are capable of love of any and all genders. Asexuals typically (depending where they are on the spectrum) don't want to have sex with the person they fall in love with.

ribbonbaby​(sub female){Guarded} • Oct 14, 2021

Ahh! Thanks for the explanation Dr Wakko

LongerJohnny​(dom male) • Oct 14, 2021

Perhaps because some people don't understand (or won't accept) that there is a difference between love and sex; between aromantic and asexual.
Their preconception is:

1. A female who loves another female must be a lesbian.

2. A loving relationship between any person and any other person must include sex.

3. Therefore love and sex must necessarily coexist.

As you know that is not always the case. But they can't reconcile the two so their heads explode.

CSI • Oct 14, 2021

@longer Johnny- she liked your explanation so much, she used it in her blog. Well done

LongerJohnny​(dom male) • Oct 14, 2021

Wow.
I'm pleased to have been able to help.