@Celestial Luna
When you dip a toe in bdsm/Ds waters, as a submissive female, whether online or real life, it is a feeding frenzy of men waiting to pounce.
And waiting to tell you the way to do/be/think/act.
My advice to anyone new: IGNORE. WAIT. (you can be courteous doing so)
You've more than likely just discovered something that explains your imaginings, your feelings, your fantasies of many years.
But, you are you. And you can trust yourself to be you, and you can trust your gut.
This world doesn't come with a different set of values. You don't change who and how you are.
What may change over time is how you act and behave. And yes, think, as you grow and experience.
But, please, take everything you see now with a pinch of salt. You may well get rejected and 'told off' by men who tell you 'you aren't submissive' if you don't agree with them/obey them. It's complete crap.
If something doesn't sit well with you, that is okay.
I never felt the need to seek out fellow submissives to talk to. But I know that can help. Be very very very suspicious of any dominant offering to take you under their wing/protect/mentor /train you. There is always (in my experience) a hidden agenda. It is a masquerade.
But yes, my opinion is just one.
Read and read and find people who you feel speak to you. All the others can be relegated to the soundproof room at the back.
(occasionally good to open the door a fraction, listen to them bleat, and reaffirm that they're talking bollocks)