Absolute beginner nerves
2 weeks ago • Feb 11, 2024
Innocentnewbie • Feb 11, 2024
I am very new into the BDSM community. I have always been drawn towards female shaming porn but have never known how to express that to a partner in the past in the sense that ‘I want to be that female’. On the occasions I have tried, it has ended up with painful and utterly underwhelming sex from ‘blokes’ who thought being dominant meant simply choking someone out or trying to smack bodies together so hard my thighs were raw for days. Unsatisfying and unfulfilling to say the least.
I still do not understand how I’m going to get past the mental block that has always told me - you have to be the alpha, no matter what but I am intrigued, hopeful and willing that I can change that mindset some day soon.
It is nice to be a part of a community that accommodates both sides of the coin and acknowledges we have these intrinsic feelings.