Tips on setting personal boundaries?

Tips on setting personal boundaries?

comrade​(sub female) • Dec 3, 2024

I have been a submissive as long as I can remember and live a very hyper sexual life. I’ve done nearly every facet of sex work (I’ve been a stripper, porn star, escort, prodomme, sugar baby and cam girl) and my body count is probably in the thousands. I think all this sex has rotted my brain and trained me to love misogyny and get off on abuse. A conventional relationship has no appeal to me anymore. I love the idea of cooking and cleaning all day for my man and getting beat when he comes home. I want to drink his piss and get brutally humiliated. I will do nearly anything to please my sex partners. I’ve tried nearly everything sexually and crave more and more extreme scenes. I wish I wasn’t like this but the only way I can feel fulfilled in a relationship is if I get abused. I hate telling my partners no, it makes me feel so guilty. How do I safely have a relationship where my sexual needs are met? Any tips on setting sexual boundaries for yourself? I really wish I wasn’t such a perverted slut :/

B L O N D I E​(sub female) • Dec 3, 2024

I'm just going to come right out and say it. I personally don't believe that this site is the right place for you. I personally feel that you need to get some therapy. I'm telling you this from a place of compassion as a survivor of abuse both as a child and as an adult. I think you need to go full abstinence on all sex and relationships until you get some healing and develop some respect for yourself. You are in a very dangerous situation where you can't protect yourself. You need to take care of yourself by giving yourself a total ban on sex and relationships of every kind until you figure your life out and rebuild your sense of self worth. You're young. Stop this madness now before it gets any worse or you get yourself killed. Get yourself some help and built yourself a real life. You can do this. You are not too far gone. You just have to love yourself enough to believe that you can turn things around. Trust me. I have been there. If you need help or support, feel free to message me. I really hope the best for you.

Heart of Persephone​(sub female) • Dec 3, 2024

Very well said. I was thinking the exact thing, as I read the post.

Miki​(masochist female) • Dec 3, 2024

Don't call yourself a "perverted slut".

You are not alone in what you crave, but it's not the least bit safe.

You face the risk of running into a psycho who will "give" a whole lot more than you want... up to and including being six feet under.


You should seek professional help rather than go on doing something you don't even really like doing deep down.

Sweetlydepraved​(masochist female){95%} • Dec 3, 2024

I don’t believe telling someone they aren’t welcome here because they have more eclectic sexual needs is necessary.

I too have all these things, minus the history of being a sex worker. I have found my “safe place to be not so safe” because Daddy and I are both on the way outer edges of what I call “Bubble Gum BDSM”.

He is merciless when he wants to be and gentle and kind when he wants to be.

My suggestion would be to deeply think about the kind of person who can maintain a balance between the extremes, and then come up with your boundaries. Don’t rush into playing with someone, I recommend at least 3 months of getting to know/vetting. Set hard limits that fall away in stages as this person earns your trust. Write these things down and refer to them when you’re getting to know someone. Share your limits, and know that in no way are you “wrong” for adhering to those limits until someone has earned the required trust to start pushing those.

It is a learning process, and you will fail a few times. It’s okay, just keep trying to voice, and maintain the boundaries you set for yourself.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Dec 3, 2024

Welcome to the dark side all are welcome we have cookies there a seat and room for you know matter the background. Not about your past, who you are today, only you get a say in that. Dita von teese , Betty page they all did things but they made difference even was good or bad but they set the limit they also wanted respect you don't have to be so called person just be yourself. Past was more misunderstanding times these times are different more of understanding we did have the words back then but we have them now. We all did some things but we all grown older we all have good laugh was a memory but set on fire keep going.

That your past, not your present, is what you do now. Going to say this sharing your fears and desires that takes integrity your not afraid to be yourself that freaking attractive just want someone that respects you takes you seriously but gets in your mind and soul without even touching you but can make your mind wet make whole body shiver with delight and crave growth soul connection dark passion. Everyone has a past know one is perfect but these are all life experiences these are not mistakes these are things help you grow as you go on your journey if everyone was perfect looked the same it be pretty boring would be fighting over each other be glad we are all Different imperfect beauty's.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Dec 3, 2024

You already know what you need in your head line bless yourself for being strong and coming here you did for yourself. You are blessed.


Erotica been around since AD times everyone did it not a hush hush thing behind the scenes you see lots of people you never even think of being in it but they are. Go to museum you will see nudity the body and mind are magnificent done by great artist but done very soft and classy some risque.



But you can do it better. It's your choice to write a new story. Time and place for everything little trashy, sexy and naughty at times and lady by day. Sure you like to be called a slut but only a person should be the one who earns your heart and submission does take it but earns with respect. Someone who calls you slut or whore just smiles and says thanks well if I am slut so are you so I guess we are even wanna have coffee cause a hater just jealous but they need love to a friendship they have their insecurities also. People should come together to embrace their sexuality but be shun. Not everyone is religious but even if a judge goes to church he sin so many times really no sin you gotta sin in life get out the gutter of living a boring life. Lawyers and doctors and people of many professions are in the lifestyle every night. Everyone has a story about why they are here. Some are alone with someone they do not give to them or they tried with their partner they are in a sexless marriage. Some people are only for one, some are poly but not everyone is the same and poly should not be forced. You can never change someone; they are only going to be what they are going to be. You have to fix your own life. If you're tired of being with a roommate, or a married prison cell partner, you have to decide to make up your mind that you love them but you need to separate. If you are stuck with the person it is not the same hard to find the right person that is really for you. Some marriages are friendships but not life is about marriage or a piece of paper. Be selective if you have never been with anyone, be selective, take your time, find yourself and become the partner you seek. Not everyone wants to be someone that is taken, some are into it, not all but reserved people want someone that is reserved as well one for one only. But whatever it is, be honest in the lifestyle you are going to have to be honest and open up about being honest when it comes to time feelings.



Life is about going through the good, the bad, the ugly and getting your hands dirty. Gotta be a little crazy through this madness get out the matrix and the mind control of society life the way you want to live but in peace with your darkness. Women do magical things they once bought like created life. They are the goddess that temples need to be respected or the gate is closed. Women are not here to please men, they are here to be themself they should be happy to even be part of your magic to even be in it. But if they want to be with you they need to be happy how you are. But both men and women have to share this life so respect each other, be merry and wise be the peace not headache thank you. But just because you like someone you have feelings for them does mean their feelings will be the same so please respect people's wishes or they will decline you. Find something fancy but don't be a dull douche, bring your respect with you and flatter the class not horny toad people will say get lost. Don't come desperate that loses interest you mind get hot and heavy but please control yourself still be sexy but be yourself save the hot and heavy for later when you have the right person.


Dita von Teese was a dancer before she did burlesque she did soft porn and fetish modeling but she set the limit she wanted to be different but be mysterious with her work use the tool of glamour but not be object but be art. She did with class keep to the imagination. Little naughty, a little risque but still rather lady-like. She did with the art of seduction. Women have super power. You gotta take everything back that belongs to you. You don't really need to talk to someone to fix your mind you just need a retreat


Sexually and Mentally and feeling and all Demisexually people need to feel a feeling and soul click and trust before they can even go on with someone.  Sex can not be forced in favor you gotta have the balls be more than sex Master yourself before you allow another in your life. Respect yourself the way you want to be treated. If you have a daughter or mother  you would want her being treated badly so respect all women just as men. Cause if you don't have respect the door will be slammed in your face. How you act, how you are what you attract. So if you act with crap you will be served with crap.
But pain with punishment from Sadomasochism many of us enjoy inflicting pain and pleasure but taking someone that respects you with love only touches spots on the body where alright their parts can't be hit.  Being selective with your heart who you allow in your life. Someone that takes the time to get to know you does not rush you.  Settle for value and growth.  Pain of love should never be done out of anger but out of love and done slowly. At first a woman needs to be teased a bit and have some romance but needs to be the right person that can click a soul not be after a body no soul no love.  To get the body and mind aroused first then the body can take the pleasure of pain.  Why do you study it, find what you don't like, take your time with patience not rush, start with the little things then try the bigger things later but how you communicate and agree with things. But always have safe, sane consent. You need limits and consent. Even if you like to be ravaged by love you need to know the person in mutual trust, have a friendship before a relationship and love to grow a bond court each other make up your mind when the time is right. Even in the lifestyle you need to go out and do things in reality go bowling , go on walks , laugh together all those things should be done first I know might sound boring but saves you from rushing and not getting hurt. .  But you get to know someone first online, a few messages so on. Don't get hooked til you know it's right. Someone's needs to be emotionally invested before getting hooked and show you with blueprints not sweet words. Go with your gut and heart does feel right or the energy is not right you need to say no and no still a no. If you meet anyone, never do it alone, bring someone with you. First meeting is only to see if its a connection not a date just a connection to see if you both have chemistry and connection that you click.  Two people have to have a connection, one person alone can not will not work so you say best of luck or carry on. Rejection happens but can be done right just be honest but you can't force a connection it has to be the same in the same light.  Person should not come to you saying they are dom and looking for a relationship they should just come as being themself getting to know you showing up being a gentleman. Right one proves to you not to shake you or barks orders to know the difference.


You dress up you do for yourself being sexy for yourself if you do anything for health well being for yourself ether way the person has to be happy to be part of it to be in it or they don't get to share with you. But if they love you and treasure you then bless and share the love together.



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Guidance can come from the leading hand but you must guide your life as well and bloom for self and invest in the process do some research and enlighten self. But takes time and patience. I know you want proper guidance but you must be willing to grow for yourself. Have courage to be confident for yourself be sexy with mind and your elegant assets with value. Know is coming to save anyone but their is great support and be listening ear and share thoughts I did get saved I had to become because gal has to become the women they seek in return but also become the partner you seek. Some people can be generous but this one is up to you do the rest. Don't look for partner right away focus on working on yourself maintain a friendship of trust be selective who you allow in your life they should respect you not ask to do silly task to bark orders. Submission is earned not given know one can own you in one day ownership is on whole level really should be owning each other when the time is right and when mutual trust over time.

Their is personals on top your profile but since you just started again don't look right away get to know people look for a friend , companionship you still need your freedom to decide don't grow an attachment til you know its right. Online does mean it's going to be 100% both people need to work on both ends or meet in virtual worlds to carry it to real. But even if you meet in real life you need to make sure you both are the same in connection and all because it can change. You will need to meet a few times in a year or two years before anything you can't move in right away. You need to take the time to court each other. Do it safely, rushing does not work so taking it slow real bond takes time. Person that takes the time, the one that has your trust, the one rushing you is not someone to trust. So listen to your heart and gut and know the signs but if it does not feel right decline. All the best of luck.


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Love isn't where we hide ghosts. Love is where we release them.

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Having deep connection with someone changes you forever.

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Dates , healthy , communication , room to grow , quality time , reassurance , Reciprocated energy.

What really crave of love , is finding someone with whom we feel safe to reveal our truest , most authentic self , without the fear of judgment.

Enjoy the erotica , romance , dark passion with pain of finery but has to have a feeling , mentally , physically , pure growth , respect and soul feeling. But if I am going to share with yin yang balance , balance with feminine with masculine by evolving together. Wake it up have to be able to light the fire. Love is rare, real is rare, so reserved . Leave to the imagination why it's called art because art can not be touched by all only by one who respects it and aligned crossed hearts. Treat thy life with value as art in return as well. Good side and sultry side but its mysterious but they can look but not touch only one gets it all the madness of love.

About ciro 2009 Many subs would get messages by some so called D you should read 50 shades of grey to be a true sub. Thing is, the book is about the author. It's based on their life and they went through many ups and downs but they should have made the movies made all at the same time told to people based on the author. Because the first and second one were really respectful, the last one was 50 shades free when we became more grown and understood the second one at the end was somewhat. Knowing one can just shut you off saying you have to say one person can do it alone why in the first movie they walked away. People have feelings and have a mind when respect is broken they are going to walk away. I did really read the book but saw a glimpse of it but when it first came out people thought this would save their marriage. The book was banned from many places and domestic abuse should come with a warning label. I got into the lifestyle of 1999/2000's old school. We did not think of sex games of abuse was more then that but don't think it was anyways fault it' how it was viewed and showed wrong got people over addicted to 50 shades . But you have to be beyond a book you have to live your own life everyone life is different before this book old school of the lifestyle its a bond love and trust nothing about abuse fine to live how you want but don't think your life based on a book you read be original not a copy to many copies going around best to one and only priceless. But their mind be parts you like about the book not saying stop your life live how you want it but be the way you want to be treated but the author her guy went through abuse but she was off and on til he grow as a person but she almost left she got tired of this mistress women that taught him but he finally cut her off no person wants to deal with lies once trust is broken can never be again. Nothing should never get in the middle of your relationship; you protect your partner. Your partner should be number one in private and public if one can't do it then they lost your respect know your value and respect be selective who you allow in your life and heart.




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The Making Of A Lady
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The ugly truth movie.

Safe sex is not always wearing a condom, It's being careful who you mix your soul with.

Yeah anyone can want it but takes that one special person to actually value you.

Not about who wants you. It's about values and respects you.

-mysterious-

Of, relating to, or being a religious mystery.
Arousing wonder or curiosity, especially by being difficult to explain or understand.
Of or pertaining to mystery; containing a mystery; difficult or impossible to understand; inexplicable; obscure; not revealed or explained; enigmatical; incomprehensible.

It's rare to that you find someone with enough emotional and mental patience and maturity to work through the sh#t with. Like actually communicate , and lose their ego because they value the connection more than their pride, You gotta leave your ego at the door in love. It's a must.

Something so imitate about handmade stuff , handmade bread , handmade presents , hand written letters , in a general intimacy and tenderness are stored in hands , in holding hands and playing with each other's fingers , warming each other's hands.

Passion take leading hand to lead the way. Feed my soul , arouse my mind , channel the connection , emotionally invested on soul level spark with growth. takes someone very special to wake it up what comes to the heart.

Just like flowers require water to keep them beautiful. People require love , honesty , respect , trust , passion energy to keep them beautiful too.Once we give that , then we just may find that the god and goddess we been looking for has been right in front of you us all along.

Love is not enough it needs aligned values, vision, and lifestyle in order to maintain any healthy relationship.

Feeling safe in someone's energy is a different type of intimacy. That feeling of peace and protection is really underrated.

with someone who will take care of you.
Not materialistically,
but take care of your soul, your well being. your heart, and everything that's you.

Compliments on appearance are nice , but when somebody compliments you as a person - you laugh , your personality , your heart - that's where it's at.

Dance , Sing , read , to each other , breathe together - communicate. Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around first to develop intimacy skills . Then make love to enjoy them.We all things have a story. And no matter how much work you've done on yourself. We all snap back together. So be easy on yourself. Growth is a dance. Not a light switch.Some just want good company, a person to vibe with , converse with and laugh without in a rush. Start off simple , and let the rest find itself.

To love at all is to be vulnerable
Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3 am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention , when ten others people are asking for it. Intimacy is person always in the back of your mind , No matter how distracted you are.

Bring someone in to your world. But they willing to share with you express it with art treat like treasure to come in your world.

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Erotica
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Vail of desire
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Not Myself Tonight
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S&M
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ZAYN - PILLOWTALK
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Erotique
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Life and Lingerie
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Capital Letters
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Love Me Like You Do
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It's being careful who you mix your soul with


Great to be honest but don't give too much they can take it and leave , yet a mystery keep to the imagination allowing them to earn the heart slowly can not just be given but in time with trust just as submission it's earned both ways. Not saying you're wrong.

Yeah anyone can want it but takes that one special person to actually value you.

Not about who wants you. It's about values and respects you.

A lass as Women should never lower self just for anyone for bump in the night know your value and respect never settle for anything less. Do better become the partner you seek date yourself respect thy self in return what you want. I guess all depends if you talked for hours still talk on phone til next day meet also and had dinner and wine but I would not call it a fling I just say great connection and chemistry of great passion of longer time down the road. Gotta be more sex in the soul selective someone loves a soul mind and soul body comes last just after a body and looks no soul no nothing.

Safe sex is not always wearing a condom, It's being careful who you mix your soul with.

Find a great friendship first before the relationship and love department. Grow with connection and time and laughter go out and do things courted into it. Yeah anyone can want it but takes that one special person to actually value you. Keep it with connection being yet a mystery, share little til mutual trust. Someone that you talk to for hours really clicks your soul and takes the time to get to know you that kind of spark. Romance over time later worked into friendship and courtship.

Just like flowers require water to keep them beautiful. People require love , honesty , respect , trust , passion energy to keep them beautiful too.Once we give that , then we just may find that the god and goddess we been looking for has been right in front of you us all along

The man or women you choose to be your partner effects everything in your life. Your mental health, Your peace of mind,your love inside you, your happiness, how you get through trades, your successes, how your children will be raised , and much more. Choose wisely.

You deserve a slow love uncomplicated. No rush. Sure and Stable. Consistent .You deserve the love. You deserve someone that's sure of you. that you're sure of.

Not all moments of intimacy are sexual. Sometimes it's just about mutual nurturance.

Dance , Sing , read , to each other , breathe together - communicate. Don't count on sex to be the door to intimacy. It's the other way around first to develop intimacy skills . Then make love to enjoy them.We all things have a story. And no matter how much work you've done on yourself. We all snap back together. So be easy on yourself. Growth is a dance. Not a light switch.Some just want good company, a person to vibe with , converse with and laugh without in a rush. Start off simple , and let the rest find itself.

Sharing same vision in life , Both have a Plan , Hand Holding, Watching the stars , Showing up for your theater play , Road Trip . Vacation , Dancing , Whispering sweet secrets to each other , Doing the most silly things together , Cheering you up on blue day's , Picking you up over the shoulder , Bucket list.

Be with someone who will take care of you.
Not materialistically,
but take care of your soul, your well being. your heart, and everything that's you.

There will be ones who want you there will be the person who deserve you.

It's rare to that you find someone with enough emotional and mental patience and maturity to work through the sh#t with. Like actually communicate , and lose their ego because they value the connection more than their pride, You gotta leave your ego at the door in love. It's a must.

Feeling safe in someone's energy is a different type of intimacy. That feeling of peace and protection is really underrated.

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Humble and calm yet still take no sh*t and set solid boundaries to protect my energy.

hand made love
Something so imitate about handmade stuff , handmade bread , handmade presents , hand written letters , in a general intimacy and tenderness are stored in hands , in holding hands and playing with each other's fingers , warming each other's hands.

-mysterious-

Of, relating to, or being a religious mystery.
Arousing wonder or curiosity, especially by being difficult to explain or understand.
Of or pertaining to mystery; containing a mystery; difficult or impossible to understand; inexplicable; obscure; not revealed or explained; enigmatical; incomprehensible.

“Nothing is more dangerous than a man/women who healed his wounds on his/her own”

A person becomes 10 times attractive not by their looks but their acts of kindness, love, respect, honesty and loyalty they show.

Love is not enough it needs aligned values, vision, and lifestyle in order to maintain any healthy relationship.

𝘈𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘮𝘦 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘱𝘩𝘺𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘦'𝘭𝘭 𝘧𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘺𝘯𝘤 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺.

Passion take leading hand to lead the way. Feed my soul , arouse my mind , channel the connection , emotionally invested on soul level spark with growth. takes someone very special to wake it up what comes to the heart.

"Important encounters are planned by the soul long before the bodies see each other."

Beauty isn't about having a pretty face. It is about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart and most importantly , a beautiful soul.

Fascinated by soul , depth , intellect , rebellion , with cause , love without condition, ,music that makes you feel different . . . .that matters.

I am not a snack. I am a garden. Take care of me and I can feed you forever.

Your relationship should be a safe haven , not a battlefield. The world is hard enough.

Compliments on appearance are nice , but when somebody compliments you as a person - you laugh , your personality , your heart - that's where it's at.

Before you argue with someone ask yourself. "is this the person mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of different perspective?"if not there is no point to argue.

Your soulmate will exactly how to deal with you.,Flaws & all...

-mysterious-

Of, relating to, or being a religious mystery.
Arousing wonder or curiosity, especially by being difficult to explain or understand.
Of or pertaining to mystery; containing a mystery; difficult or impossible to understand; inexplicable; obscure; not revealed or explained; enigmatically; incomprehensible.

My "I got you" Is a powerful as F#ck, like I really got you. through trail & error, break down & break through, sunshine & storm, I'm here.

No man on this earth becomes strong without experiencing some deep dark pain.

Asexual , Demisexual , Noetisexual , Sapioromantic . Is centered, very reserved, selective with heart takes the right kind of energy and connection with feeling to be open with heart & soul . Connection can not be forced or rushed " has to be in the same vibration and the right time with balance the same connection and chemistry and clicked you feel it. Some share the bond with lockets , bracelets , rings , tattoo symbol of soul bond.

Both ways , Understand the energy, the feeling of how you treat someone and respect them the way one would do themself in respectful energy but love with respect. Growth with peace understand all of you stepping into the present time of journey walk with you.

Demisexual Usually refers to a person who does not experience physical attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with the person first.

Noetisexual Usually refers to a person who is only physically attracted to those they are mentally connected to.

Sapioromantic Usually refers to a person who is romantically attracted to a person's mind more so than by the appearance of their body.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Dec 3, 2024

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queen knows how to appreciate another’s shine, without talking them or their business down while staying focused on her own crown. There is space for everyone 🙏🏼
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lot of you knew me back when I put everyone else first and let my own needs slip. Let’s get one thing straight—I’ve learned, I’ve grown, and I’m no longer afraid to set boundaries and walk away from what doesn’t serve me. 🙏🏼
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our energy is your most powerful tool—how you use it shapes everything.
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You find your people here send you light and love.
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You empire should be your yin and yang.
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My confidence is unshakable. I’ll walk into a room, knowing you don’t like me, sit right next to you, and smile. Because my worth isn’t determined by your opinion.

A woman’s mind is constantly at work, assessing her surroundings, ensuring her safety—both physically and emotionally. Many don’t realize the invisible energy this takes. 🙏🏼
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It’s easy to distance yourself from people who don’t align with your energy, but the real challenge is setting boundaries with those you call friends.
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In your headline you found your vision your goddess limit true essences is you.
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Out of the shell.
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Your making history for yourself your breaking the dna curses that heals the whole family dna.
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overcome become.
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keep your sense of humor
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The best revenge is non but getting prettier , smarter , doing better than before , becoming the highest version of yourself. It's only you vs you. Be reserved with value and respect not everyone can have everything is earned with respect and blue prints and effect they should be happy to even be part of you.But someone to experience your love it a privilege Women give life in this world respect it. If just crap be ready for some crap as crap on a plate. Put yourself on reserve your temple not just for anyone. Just saying I know you are wise but I would start being selective with your heart and who you bring in your life and setting some valid boundaries. They need to show with blue prints to keep you safe and also pour the same. They should be trying to drive you into a relationship right away; they just need to get to know you and earn your respect. When they try to convince you to serve or ownership you need to think before you leap respect is earned with trust and its earned if they can not respect nothing more. I know Lady may get deep but know the signs that anything forced is not love them saying they want you right away wanting to meet and hook is a big no. They need to voice and so in mature manner before anything in a respectful manner. It is going to take weeks to talk to someone. Love and marriage comes later not the first day or first sight. They need to be willing to court you to show you get emotionally invested before anything. They wanna meet you then they need to move mountains to show up meet in public for coffee and court you go out do things. They should not engage any conversation of slex a gentleman will never force things on you. Fine to hold hands so on but you need to have sit down talk first see if their is chemistry and connection before even holding hands. If their no connection just be friends but they get mad your not wanting to more then let them go you have to protect your heart and dignity that value is respected just not given it has to be earned by someone willing to show you respect not just take it.You should of throw him to the curve when he started the sweet talk not even allowed him to taste you cause you know your worth never settle for less. Don't let just anyone touch you or even meet you they need to meet you were you are talking first. later meet on virtual game later or some type of mmo if they want you they need to send some offering of point why they want you but don't give them your address give them p.o. box or have them send it a diffren't way. Never just meet I know they like make gal jump if their no effect their nothing needs to be shown not said. Focus on becoming the partner for yourself and date yourself and your friends together go out do things. But also people need to be tested and show you does not matter hold your respect if they can't follow your wishes gate is closed they need to respect your temple your body is worth to much. Lifestyle is respect and bond a art in the ying and yang.

Maturity Your respect differences.You don't force things.Small talk no longer excites.You become more open minded.Sleep is better than Friday night out.

Rise up
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Peace
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Change
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Your self
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Change will come within.

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The best way to end something is to starve it.
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Before it was the 1950s now they call it trad life. Old fashion chivalrous other things of yesterday and now.

Submissive do want to feel safe and protected but many that are old fashioned security meant that the Gentlemen made room for them to make a life the house is safe life is secure to be in a family unit to grow this partnership. Someone secure would be confident to understand what Reasonable role that they would not ask submissive what they do for living right off the bat. Yes many so called Dom ask this right in the first question a high value gentlemen would never a lady this more her just dropping out the chat. So called Doms with the name Alphas in name or King , Master as name does so anything making sub walk away. Genuine ones are more discreet and come out the shadows to reveal themself they won't question you, they will lead and respect you, make time for you, make you theirs in time to cherish , provide , lead and mold , help them grow , allow them to blossom. Submissive does have to be perfect in how they carry it as long as they understand up to the Genuine Leading hand to mold but not change but mold them and teach them to be his lady. My first HOH Leading hand made sure to tell me if you don't know how to do things you can do. He taught me how to walk in heels, how to do my makeup to educate myself better ,But be myself wearing frilly dresses , hair done , being seductive vixen only for him that he showed off on his arm he wanted me to be the perfect lady in front of family and friends and work. So even if women want's to work or stay home it takes someone that understands. But their going to be good and bad day's can't get mad at subissive for trying. Even if she did her best to mop the floor she was new to this can't get mad over it you simply have to help and show her how kiss her tell her going to be Ok.


“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.”
― Matthew Henry, Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible

Living 1950s dynamic traditional role in the lifestyle the Head of Household leads and the soul provider and cherishes and guides the women. The woman who takes care of the house looks her best. He makes sure she is in bliss as she makes sure he's in bliss. That it's a partnership household unite. Investing in vintage clothes and manners it's hard work and looking at the mind, body and soul it's not cheap. It takes a lot of work and years. Don't have to be wealthy, take the right person that respects you the same as you. I shop around, I go to vintage stores and places where this hard work is not for just anyone. I never asked for things I was given by my past HOHs. They asked me to write it down. Yes you can find things but a lot of it online , vintage stores or thrift stores. Looking and seeking is not lady doing she just needs to be herself use your feminine essence takes someone has true masculine essence. Many of us are demisexual and asexual meaning sex does nothing it has to be feeling soul connection that clicks deep depth love is rare. Times may have changed but these days you can hire made help the women around the house and things or carry out some times or go out. But have those date nights once a week so on. But sex not the first thing gotta be connection and friendship allow things to grow over time. Domestic Discipline out of love and passion with paddling know their place. Not everyone might nor be 1950s but many submissive want some what old fashion with bdsm. Tools of glamour corsets , garments , vintage makeup , vintage hair dye. Just like stepford she might not be perfect but she wear corset under her dress sexy for herself her guy likes her for herself if she to mold for own health should be up to her not someone forcing but he leads to help her supports her.


Before it was the 1950s now they call it trad life. Old fashion chivalrous other things of yesterday and now.

Traditional Roles #TradWife
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Day in the life of a Traditional Wife!
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What is a “Trad Wife” or "Traditional Wife"
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The Tradwife Movement
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Stress your dating life to bring peace in your marriage
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Family focused over worldly success❤️
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How to Make Homemaking Enjoyable!
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Tradwife life
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Traditional Marriage
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Marriage Is a Partnership (1951)
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Affection
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Grooming
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Effortlessly Seductive
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Irresistible Feminine Energy
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Allure, Sensuality, Looking Sultry and Attractive
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Becoming the Woman of Your Dreams
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Use your femininity Attract a Gentleman
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High Value
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Art of entering
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Confidence & Femininity
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crazy about you 🌹
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Traits
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Softnote​(masochist female) • Dec 3, 2024

Last Note: Go what works for your own good only you know your path.
If they don't see you in your light they don't get to be in your present. But listen to your mind body it will tell you. This the era of better the oldshit will fall but you will all way's rise in new timeline.


Don’t let anyone’s sweet words make you doubt your worth. 🙏🏼💗 Some call it therapy but you only need a retreat doll real therapy is none the mind reverse life and do the things you want. No need to worry create better. Everyone seems surprised when you finally get serious about your boundaries…Don’t settle for being just a pretty face. Strive to be the woman who embodies beauty, brains, and ambition. Cultivate your independence and success so that you become a force to be reckoned with—one that no one can mess with.One day , were both going to make it, sis because if I make you're coming with me.Why wait for a “special” day? Life itself is the occasion.Stop saving those clothes and shoes for special moments. Wear them now, enjoy them today. Every day you’re alive is a celebration in itself! ✨o every woman out there quietly building her life from the ground up—you deserve all the respect.Hedy Lamarr’s story is incredible and such an inspiration! Not only was she a Hollywood icon, but she was also a brilliant inventor whose work has had a profound influence on modern technology.This chapter is different, and I’m owning every part of it. No more shrinking, no more second-guessing. I’m stepping into everything I deserve with confidence and purpose. If you’re not in alignment with that energy, respectfully, step aside.he company you keep will either elevate you or bring you down. Which direction are you heading?You’re alive, so act like it! 🌟 Go out and embrace life—call that friend you’ve been meaning to, hit the gym, climb that mountain, or run until you feel unstoppable. 🔥You’re not too late! But you do need to start if you want to move forward in life.Now is the ideal moment to chase your dreams, it’s not your age that defines you, but your actions. Seize the present and move toward your goals today.
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Real friends keep it real.
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Shine bright like a diamond
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No matter what life throws your way, confidence is the one thing no one can take from you
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Push your limits, find your strength, and most importantly, find yourself.

Life’s too short to stay stuck. 🔥


The second someone makes me doubt my worth or shows inconsistency, I’m out. My self-respect comes before any feelings. Know your value and never settle for less
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A man will always bring you to his level—up or down. It’s either growth, support, and elevation, or draining your energy and holding you back. Your future depends on the choices you make today. Choose wisely. 💫


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shortylotus​(dom female){johnnyxsix} • Dec 8, 2024

I would say it has to start with you...I would take the time and write out what you enjoy and what you don't...along with things you would like to try and things you wouldnt..then be transparent about your wants and needs to potential partners...with you enjoying more intense behaviors make sure that partners really understand and respect those boundaries... people who don't respect boundaries are usually the ones who benefit from you not having any