Aradia Nightshade(other female)
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2 weeks ago •
Jan 23, 2025
2 weeks ago •
Jan 23, 2025
I have no experience with slaves. From what I have gathered, slaves are owned and they have only one purpose: to please you. Some people even go so far as to forbid the slave from using the word "I" anymore. One thing is certain. You said that you are okay with them being themselves. Already that is something that wildly contradicts what I've seen about what a slave is. Plus you mentioned not wanting to destroy their ego - as slaves, they shouldn't have one.
Perhaps you could share your definition.of a slave?
I am going to be direct here, but please keep in mind that I'm expressing my opinion, not dictating or trying to present my opinion as fact.
I'm absolutely mystified why you call these people slaves. We may have a different definition but within BDSM, the one thing slaves are supposed to do, is obey.
They aren't slaves. If they identify as such, they are terrible slaves! They are behaving terribly. They certainly aren't behaving like friends. Hell, they aren't even behaving as if they give a rat's ass about you at all.
Let's put aside the label of slave and any other label, and call them human beings. These human beings are hurting you (emotionally) and putting you in danger (doxing), in order to get your attention. They sound like demented children.
If one requires an audience to show their subjugation to you, go to a BDSM events or something.
My recommendation is not going to be popular. I am answering this because while we barely know each other, your "slaves" are putting you in actual real danger. That is not okay. Please keep this in mind if you get angry at me - I am concerned about your safety as a fellow human being.
These two "slaves" need to see a kink friendly therapist as a condition of their continued "servitude". I put that in quotes because they are not serving you at all right now. They are serving themselves and their egos.
If we pretend they are slaves, then we can use the term punishment. They need to be punished for their ridiculous behaviour and there has to be consequences. They should be told to stop the behaviours, or there will be a consequence, an unpleasant one, with you following through. Making threats of punishment without follow-through with the consequence will just make them behave worse. You should know what their currency is, what would motivate them, and be prepared to take whatever it is away from them until it if they learn how to behave. It's not lost on me that this same concept applies to children.
If they continue to put you in danger and disregard your emotional well-being, they don't deserve to "serve" you, be a friend to you, or have any role in your life at all. You could give them a taste of their own medicine but that would just cause more problems. Start documenting everything they are doing, record them admitting their bad behaviour, etc so you can get that evidence that is lacking in case the last resort, legal action, is something you decide.
Honestly at this juncture, I'd treat them like vicious stalkers and take the appropriate steps, including restraining orders.
Am I being too serious? Sounding too harsh? To some people, probably. But they've put your real-life safety at risk here. It's time to stop with the games and the excuses for their poor behaviours. They have mental health issues that should be treated. I don't have to know a damn thing about BDSM to state unequivocally that what is going on with these two is absolutely wrong.
And there is the Mama Bear aspect of my personality. I am risking your anger here and you might decide to shun me. But I needed to say what I did because I can't sit on my hands when peoples' behaviours are putting your safety at risk, but also there's your privacy, which they should hold sacred. I would say the exact same thing if this were happening to someone else.
I think what they should really get is a one way ticket out of your life so you have room for people who well, aren't them.
</rant> (end rant)
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