Meeting

How long should you leave it before asking to meet someone online to a real life meet,

I got asked this and honestly, I don't know
I guess it depends how you both feel about meeting

But also, how long have you both been chatting
I understand that some like to chat to get to know the person,
But then, some don't,
They want to chat for about a week or so, then maybe arrange to meet up,
As better to find out sooner than later if you both compatible with each other,
But also saying that
Don't just talk about the lifestyle
Talk about other things

So in all honesty, don't pressure the other person into meeting up
But also just Ask the question
And if they new to the lifestyle, let them take the lead in where n when to meet.


Love to hear any other comments about this, just incase I got it wrong.

It all depends on the people involved. Some people I meet face to face after a week. It took a year to meet the woman who would become my wife a year on online talk before meeting face to face. Back in the day, I met someone a day face to face after talking to them online (collarme was a interesting place to meet lifestyle folks).

Now play time is totally different. You have to evaluate what it is they are looking for and if it matches what you are looking for.

Sounds about right. It's more about quality of communication than any certain time period.

A quality "chat" relationship sets its own time frame. It might sound cliche, but "You'll know when the time is right".

So if you are asked that question again, the response you gave will be just fine. (IMO)

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However, I wouldn't say "never talk about BDSM", just not right off the bat. A lot also depends on where online one meets the other. If it's a place like this, BDSM can come up after a few pleasantries, but I wouldn't recommend too much. Let the flow dictate when and how deeply one should delve into the subject.

However, if a pair meet on a mainstream site, one should stick with ordinary crap for a while, see how it goes, then mention it in passing and gauge the reaction of the other. If they're into it or at least open to it they'll respond positively. If they are turned off by kink and BDSM relationships and dynamics, they'll be pretty straightforward about it.

So, all this was my long-winded way of saying that you're on the right track.

Hope this helps.