Episode Description
On today’s show, I discuss what happens when the body starts reaching for connection before the mind feels ready. After loss or betrayal, the drive for closeness doesn’t disappear, it just gets confused. I talk about why attachment and grief are inseparable, how avoidant and anxious patterns develop as survival strategies, and why betrayal grief feels so different from death loss. This episode breaks down what’s really happening inside the nervous system when you crave touch, reassurance, or familiarity after pain, and how to slow that reflex down without shutting it off. Connection before safety isn’t failure, it’s a reflex that helped you survive. The work is learning to listen to it without letting it lead.
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