What Your Kinks Say About You (According to Psychology) with Aubrey Aust 

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Episode 56 - In this episode, I sit down with my friend Aubrey Aust, a relational psychology and philosophy researcher from NYU, to unpack the psychology behind BDSM, fantasy, and desire. We talk about how kink can become a space for healing, a “relational laboratory” for exploring trust, safety, and selfhood.

Aubrey and I go deep on Freud, daddy issues, jealousy, and why honesty about desire is non-negotiable. We explore how shame can block intimacy, what embodiment really feels like, and how the dynamics of dominance and submission mirror our earliest emotional patterns. Whether you’re a dom, sub, switch, or just curious about the psychology behind play, this conversation will have you thinking about kink in a whole new way.

Episode Highlights: 

(00:00) Exploring Fantasy and Desire Through BDSM

(02:45) Revisiting Freud and Modern Sexual Psychology

(10:45) The Power of Honesty in Desire and Connection

(15:00) Working With Kinky and Non-Kinky Partners

(21:00) Embodiment, Boundaries, and Somatic Awareness

(29:00) Can Kink Be Therapeutic?

(34:00) Relational Energy and Co-Regulation

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Connect with Aubrey Aust

https://www.instagram.com/aubrey__aust

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