S2Ep8: Who's Really in Control - Dominance & Submission

A Dom gives the orders. A sub obeys. Simple, right? Yeah... not even close.

Gryff and Jason sit down with two experienced Dominants from very different corners of the kink world: Miss Lace, a straight-ish female Domme with roughly 15 years of experience, and Sir Patrick, a gay male
Dom and longtime friend of Gryff’s.

Together they unpack what dominance actually looks like when you get past the leather, floggers and stereotypes. And it turns out the biggest tools in a good Dom’s arsenal might not be restraints or impact toys at all.

The conversation gets into 24/7 power exchange, the difference between a submissive and a play partner, safe words, body language, vulnerability on the Dominant side, psychological play, erotic hypnosis, long-distance dynamics and what happens when a scene simply doesn’t work.

• What Gryff and Jason assumed Dom/sub relationships looked like before learning more
• How Miss Lace and Sir Patrick each discovered dominance
• A straight female Domme and gay male Dom on how their experiences differ
• What 24/7 power exchange can actually look like
• Why dominance is often far more relational than outsiders realize
• How gender and sexuality can shape kink spaces
• The fetishization of female Dominants
• The conversations that should happen before a scene begins
• Why communication and trust are non-negotiable
• Safe words, check-ins and nonverbal signals
• Why reading body language matters just as much as hearing “red”
• Who actually holds the power in a Dom/sub exchange
• Why Dominants can be deeply vulnerable too
• What ongoing power exchange looks like alongside jobs, spouses and everyday life
• The unexpected kink nobody warned us about: Calendars
  

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