S2Ep11: Kink For Dummies

Think you know kink? Yeah. We did too.

This week, we’re joined by Jaime M. Grant and Jack Harrison-Quintana, the authors of Kink for Dummies, for a conversation that somehow manages to make us feel both smarter and even more like dummies.

We talk about why understanding why you’re kinky may not actually matter, why some fantasies are perfectly fine staying fantasies, and why there’s no single “right” way to do consent, aftercare, community, or kink itself.

And Jason gets some advice we didn’t expect: “This is a need you have, not a problem.” 

In this episode:

• How Kink for Dummies actually came to be
• Why even experienced kinksters can still have a lot to learn
• Giving yourself permission to explore what turns you on
• The difference between understanding your desire and giving it meaning
• Why not every fantasy needs to become reality
• Why trying to be the “perfect kinkster” can make you lose sight of yourself
• Consent as an ongoing conversation, not a one-time transaction
• Why aftercare doesn’t always mean cuddles and tea
• How kink, identity and desire can change as we age
• The role online spaces can play in finding community and discovering you’re not alone
• Why being kinky does not automatically make you cooler
• And what a really good kink life should actually make you feel

So we want to know: What’s one “rule” about kink you used to believe that you’ve since thrown out?

Jaime M. Grant
Website: justsexpodcast.com
Jaime also offers poly, kink, desire and relationship coaching. 

Jack Harrison-Quintana
Instagram: @j_c_h_q

Kink for Dummies is available wherever you buy books, including independent bookstores through Bookshop. 

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The Kinky Bros are not experts. We’re just two real-life brothers figuring out the kink world one conversation at a time. This podcast contains adult conversations intended for adult audiences.