sub female

Sussex, New Jersey, United States
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Looking for a good fit.
I need a kind and nurturing Domme, someone who can love me and accept me for who I am... the happy, slightly sarcastic (maybe a little bratty), often flirty side and the dark side that wonders if I will ever be good enough, because my whole life people have shown me or told me that I wasn't and never would be. I need someone who will help me face the harder parts of life, because sometimes adulting sucks, and I just want to lay on the couch and watch YouTube videos or kill a bunch of people in a video game. Sometimes I will say stuff that could be seen as hurtful, it is never meant that way, it is just my unfiltered, honest reaction to something that got me emotional or upset. Sometimes, I want cuddles and to be held and told everything will be okay, sometimes I want to be left alone completely, and sometimes, I want someone to help me flirt with that fine line between pleasure and pain that makes me feel good and lets me float away.
Relationship status
About me
I really hate talking about myself, but I'll try.  I work 40 hours a week at least, and sometimes more when offered overtime (because who turns down overtime).  I have a house.  I pay bills.  I live my life and try to be a good person.

Please have a completed profile if you are going to message me, or a good reason at least for not completing it.

ALSO, since most people do not read my preferences... I'm very, very GAY! and not at all interested in men!
BDSM and me
“You can’t love someone the way you need to love them. You have to love them the way they need to be loved.”

“It is within the experience of everyone that when pleasure and pain reach a certain intensity, they are indistinguishable” ~Arnold Bennet~

"Being a submissive has never been about being powerless. It is about the conscious decision to gift that power to the person you seem most worthy of it."

"Life is too short for bad sex and shitty people, so find somebody that fucks you right and treats you the way you deserve to be treated."

Well... I am figuring out that I don't really fit neatly into one little box or the other, which is fine with me, because I hate boxes, they can be so restrictive.  So... I will tell you what I have figured out, and I can just be me, without a label, pet names are okay though. 

I am submissive, maybe your idea of submissive and my idea of submissive are not the same, but that's okay too... This lifestyle is not one size fits all.  We are all different and view our roles and places in this lifestyle differently.  

I am outspoken.  I will speak my mind when asked, and sometimes when not.  If I trust you enough to open myself up to you and show you all the parts of me, I hope and expect that those thoughts and opinions and parts of me are valued and appreciated, because not everyone gets to see that.

I am strong.  I have been through many things in life, and come out the other side stronger, bruised, and with a better understanding of myself and the type of person I want to be.  I don't always measure up and will occasionally fail at being the best version of myself I want to be.  That's okay, though, that's how I continue to learn and grow.  My life experiences have also left scars and bruises on my heart, ego, and self-esteem, so sometimes I need someone to just hold me and tell me it will all be okay and help me figure out how to be the best version of myself I want to be.

I like to flirt with the fine line between pleasure and pain.  Yes, sometimes, I need soft words and a comforting hand, and at other times, I need the happy floaty feeling that comes from a good beating or other types of pain.  A contradiction, maybe, but that's who I am, and I like it.  

Sometimes, I need to escape into a different world, and just relax or destress.  Normally, I do this by playing video games, reading books, or watching videos on YouTube.  Those are my safe places, where I can lose myself and not think about things that are bugging me, or subconsciously process things I am still trying to understand.  

I view my submission as the most precious give I have to offer someone, and when I offer it to someone, I do not do it lightly.  When I offer it to someone, to me it means that I trust them with everything in me.  I trust them to value all of me, my submission, and the limits we've agreed upon.  

No blood, feces or urine, no permanent marks or scars, no rape or consensual non-consent, nothing illegal that could get me arrested, no drugs.
What's new
I am me, and I am awesome... In the past week, I have learned that and grown, and gained a deeper understanding of who I am inside and outside this lifestyle, thus the profile updates and my starting a blog, so I can share some of that with others.  
Update date
Aug 19, 2022
Member since
Feb 16, 2017
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