As a society we always talk about how lacking our lives are, how its so hard to find someone to accept about us. That we want to be seen, cared for and loved. But everyone we come across seems to fall short.
We should also be talking about what we can give. What we have to offer. And being genuine and true, not just listing what we feel they want to hear. To find out who you truely are, what are your strengths, capabilities and what drives you. What are your ambitions and dreams. How can you relate that back to your partner (or future relationship). How can you support, inspire and provide that safe space for them. Learning to accept ourselves for who we are. Human. Perfectly imperfect just the way we are.
What are your kinks, what's on your curiosity list, what's something that triggers you. Take the time to revisit your lists. Try new things when its safe to. Our tastes change with new experiences. Also knowing your kinks when talking with a prospective partner is for me a foundation. If I really like someone's company but they are a sadist and Im not a masochist, then chances are that although mentally we might be well suited, physically we will both be left unfulfilled.
Are you able to be vulnerable, open hearted and honest. Not just as a submissive but also as a Dominant (and everything in between). This obviously comes with time and trust. But for me there is nothing more attractive than being with a strong man who feels safe enough to be vulnerable with me. Cementing that union even further.
Service for me is a joy. Yet I am a rather independent person. Both are my nature and both have their place. Keeping that balance is part of knowing myself. Knowing my boundaries and communicating them.
Rather than focusing on what we are wanting or lacking in a partner, look at what you can give and contribute. Change your perspective and consider how it looks from their side. Focus on lifting the people around you up instead of pulling them down. We are all different and that is part of what makes us beautifully complex. Only once you find the beauty in things, will the opportunities come your way.
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