I wish to speak of something unusual. The difference in mental submission, service submission, physical submission and sexual submission. (If you come up with more I am more than interested to talk about it).
Now i have always been submissive by nature. I used to wander what people ment when they said this but for me I completely understand what that means to me now. That i have ALWAYS had a deep desire to please others. It is not about sex. It is about the pleasure i receive in making others happy. But when i tried to break down the meanings of submission i also realised there are different types. And this is simply what they mean to me. They will mean something different to everyone and what comes easily to me might be someone elses limit.
Mental submission. Being able to give my thoughts and feelings over to another. To trust them to grow and nurture me. Help my emotional barriers come down. To do without a second though, as he wishes. That even though yes i am my own person and i have my own characteristics, yet let them enter that safe space of mine. No secrets. No barriers. To know my thoughts inside and out. And most important for me the element of actually knowing that I am owned, desired and cared for. To be loyal and not stray.
Service submission. This one i enjoy a lot and comes naturally to me. Making my Master happy with the small things i do. Remembering how he likes his coffee or ensuring the house is to his standards. Serving drinks at a party or anything he may desire. As long as i get acknowledgment and appreciation for this service i am happy. And that can be as simple as a Good Girl or telling me i have pleased my Master.
Physical submission. For this one i have labeled for any play that occurs but no penetration has happened. Like bondage and impact play. To be able to explore and experiment in a safe environment. To build upon trust. To hand my body physically to someone to touch and feel. As long as all actions are consenting. This is the fun part. Well for me anyway.
Sexual submission needs no explanation but for me this is the one that presents the biggest battle. I easily submit physically, service and mentally (which together also creates emotionally connected). Yet to hand over my sexual submission i find extremely difficult. This for me is an area that requires a lot of nurturing. If the other elements of the D/s dynamic are off even slightly you will not get sexual submission from me.
Ive never really broken these elements down before, to consider their differences or how they relate to eachother but i suggest taking a moment to see what areas yr most guarded on when thinking about yr submission and relationships. It is not necessarily a bad thing and everyones areas will be different. If you know where yr limits are and also the areas that bring you joy, it will be easier to find yr person. As well as tell them where they need to tread carefully. So that as a submissive you do not end up broken and damaged either emotionally, physically or mentally. Do not let someone push you past yr hard limits just because you are a "submissive". Your mind and body is yours and it is yr choice as well as yr responsibility to give them over. How much you give and what you give. Tread carefully and go slow my dear friends.
