We are all masters of our domain. We all have the CHOICE to act a certain way. Yes sometimes we get hurt. We feel cheated, ignored, abandoned. But it is our choice as to how we carry on from there.
A few helpful notes.
* if someone does not wish to submit to you, this does not make them a bad submissive or untrainable. It simply means you did not have that connection to make it work. Or maybe your styles and desires are too different.
*a roll of a dominant is not to try and "break" their submissive to do as they please. You earn someone's submission through trust, support and leadership. Not by demanding. And certainly not by constantly belittling their abilities.
*Keep yr stuff private. If someone has entrusted you with pictures of themselves or personal information, they gave it to you because they trusted you. Not to use against them and definitely not to share with others. This just boggles my mind
* Two wrongs do not make a right. If someone has wronged you, you have every right to feel angry. But it does not justify seeking out vengeance. Again shows poor character.
*Lastly when things dont work. Be the bigger person. Accept that you were too different and move on. Being negative, vindictive and spiteful only displays your poor character. This goes for either a top or bottom. We are all adults here surely we can act that way.
I feel that the character someone shows when under pressure displays their true colours. Be kind to yrself. If you have been wronged then process however you need to but be mindful of yr actions. Be responsible for your own thoughts and choices. Negative thoughts and emotions can fester and grow. Feel, process then accept and move forward. Holding on to pain never helps anyone. And yr actions only reflect upon yrself.
