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Silent Observations

Just my random thoughts as I try to learn and grow
6 years ago. November 24, 2018 at 9:17 PM

I know my last blog post was not so positive but I am in a better headspace now. Sometimes I need to fall on my face to see what I have and to determine my path.
In doing so I hope to become a little stronger each time. To come out more determined and I realised a few things while I was in my dark place.

1. Im not a horrible person for going after my own happiness. I will not take on the guilt of other peoples actions and make them my own. I did not break what was already cracked.

2. As a friend said to me - It's ok to want what I want. This might seem like a simple thing but it really did bring it home for me. Even in my submission it is ok for me to want a certain partner. Its ok for me to be a bit different. Accepting that what I WANT is actually ok was a big deal. Yes I am picky. Yes I want more than what many others want. But I lived in the shadows of someone elses desires for so long I did not break free to compromise again.

3. I am stronger than what I give myself credit for. Ive been told I'm stubborn as if that was a negative thing. That my actions in my vanilla life dont indicate I'm submissive. Well to those I say that's just because they are not strong enough for me. And yes I am determined, stubborn and strong willed when you push elements that are deeply important to me. So I choose to use these elements as my strengths. Only then will I find the stronger to hold them.

4. I deserve better. I deserve the life that i want and there is nothing wrong with that.

Im a strong believer in learning from my mistakes and yes i make a few. But i am only human. Learning to accept and let go is my next path for myself. I choose to not be a victim of my circumstances anymore. Things are not perfect. I am not perfect. But im choosing to try to find the good from every day.

Sending much thoughtful love.
Star

Plur01​(sub female)​{No} - I found so much of my own path in your words. I too am seeking to understand myself. Thank you.
6 years ago
Satindragon​{Not Lookin} - Very well written. Stay true to yourself and everything will turn out alright.
6 years ago
alawey​(sub female)​{(OWNED BY } - Love you hun and i know things will work out
6 years ago
cannaMaster​(dom male) - Keep after it, you have the tools now it’s time to love yourself and who you have become. Great post that will likely help others. Thanks for your transparency!
6 years ago

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