Last night Sir and I attended our first local munch. We didn't know a person there. A member of the group had reached out to me prior to the event, kind of as a “welcome wagon”, which was a nice touch.
Sir was excited to go, I was too. I was worried if I was gonna make it with these migraines I've been having but I was bound and determined to go no matter what because Sir doesn't get excited about much. LOL
I got nervous on the way over, but the anxiety was manageable. There were sooooo many people in the back room. 5 times more than in the entire joint. People looked but no one said anything. I think one person said hi. I kept pushing through the room, making a beeline for the girl with pink hair - the welcome wagon.
Most everyone already had seats and you could tell that it was broken down by who knew who at one end or the other. There were just two seats remaining together at the main table. I was relieved because I didn't want to sit off to the side by ourselves - kind of defeats the purpose of mingling, ya know?
A few members came over and introduced themselves. They seemed to be the core part of the group, the longest, most active. Sir and I eventually introduced ourselves or were introduced to the people around us but for the most part talked just the two of us...until after dinner. We had a a few nice conversations. Then one of the guys across from us, "invited" us to meet some others, after my saying the hard part for me is getting up and mingling.
I'm glad we did, I met one man that was super nice, can tell he's been around the community a very long time. He no longer identifies as Dom, simply Sadist. He offered his brain for picking and I've heard his parties are phenomenal and open to anyone. I'm looking forward to attending some and getting to watch and learn....and maybe play. ;)
The group itself is a great mix. Mostly our age, but some younger, some older. All levels of experience and types of BDSM being practiced. Really looking forward to learning more about all of them.
I was nervous we might know people there. There was one woman that looked familiar and she kept looking at me. And then one guy came in, never met him or learned his name, but I swear he was someone we knew. Time will tell. Does it really matter? No, not in the long run. At this point in time, as I told those I met last night, we avoided this group because of its proximity to our home and lack of activity. But mostly the former. However, I reached my "I don't give a fuck" point. I am who I am and all the better if I meet others that neither of us knew what the other was into, right?!
Sir and I repeatedly said last night that we have got to find some more babysitters so that we can go to some of these events that aren't so close to home and/or that are longer in length.
Thinking back over the evening, it was mostly surface level conversation as you might expect. However, one interesting tidbit that I found myself laughing to myself over this morning...When I was talking to the one guy - the Sadist - when he found out we were in the lifestyle as a D/s couple he asked which side of the / I was on. Interesting question since I had my collar on. I said I am the sub. He simply looked at me and looked at Sir, who was talking to someone else at the moment. I smiled and said I have a dominant personality (he smirked slightly) but no longer want the control. He nodded and said he would have thought I was a switch. Hmmmmmm. Truly interesting to see how the in-person community views my personality. LOL
Of course, I never did fit in a box and this pretty much confirms it. :)
Soooooo looking forward to future events to attend!
If you haven't attended your first munch...get out there. It is totally worth it. If you feel like you've found a home here on The Cage since joining because of the community feel and being part of a tribe the "gets you", but are scared of going out to meet people in-person. Trust me...it is worth the anxiety and fear. Get out there. Having that tribal/community feel in-person is AMAZING!
