Redtailedkitty

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My journey with my husband/Sir as we navigate our way into the BDSM lifestyle.

Punishments for a masochist...ideas/suggestions?

7 years ago. September 20, 2017 at 2:08 PM

Good morning Cage!

We are drawing up our "contract"/Guidelines/Protocols and we are running into a stumbling block for punishments for rule breaking.

I'm a masochist and so far, we haven't found an implement that I truly despise and doesn't at some point turn me on. LOL I'm thinking that the intent behind the spanking could possibly be effective. Sir is not so sure. Thoughts?

We have come up with non-physical punishments and maybe that is all we need....

If physcial (i.e. spaning, lashes), which would most likely would not be able to being given at the time of the infraction unless children are not home, is it a cummulative amount of lashes or per infraction broken?

Obviously the final decision lies with what we agree to...Just curious what others do.

Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - My sub used to love being given pain and so the way I used to punish infractions of rules was silence. She hated being ignored so to show she had done wrong I simply ignored her, walked away and pretended she wasn't there until she admitted she was wrong, brought her to her knees begging every time totally willing to submit her will to me and be around children and vanilla people without anyone knowing anything at all lol perfect if silence bothers you

7 years ago

Redtailedkitty - I'm unclear about the last part of "and be around children and vanilla people without anyone knowing anything at all". Meaning that it goes unnoticed by vanilla?

And yes, silence/ignoring would totally bother me. I hate being apart let alone if he ignored me. We have it as a punishment for severe infractions. For moderate, we also have down pulling social media privileges. Severe would be eliminated all social contact. Which would be horrible for me.
Typing up what we had put down in notes form makes me think we have it worked out pretty well, but still curious what others do. :)

7 years ago

Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - Yes vanilla totally do not notice anything at all. I totally ignored my sub the entire time we were around them and they did not notice anything at all was different, they thought it was perfectly fine even though she was squirming bad quietly begging me to talk to her and make eye contact which I wouldn't until she admitted she was wrong

7 years ago

Redtailedkitty - Did she know what she did wrong? One of the severe infractions is hurt feelings. If I didn't intentional do it how would I know to admit I was worng. Which by the way - I'm not the type of person to hide my wrongs. If I know I did wrong, I admit and apologize immediately.

7 years ago

Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - Oh she knew what she did was wrong and why she just didn't want to admit she was wrong. She was pretending she had no idea what she did wrong, wanted me to explain everything to her and I refused because I knew she understood and wasn't playing. I would say if it is unintentional and you really don't understand what happened then review your actions, think about what happened before you got into trouble and then discuss with your dom that you truly do not understand why you are in trouble and you did not mean to cross a line and wish to make amends for the displeasure you have caused

7 years ago

Redtailedkitty - Thanks for the input. Makes a lot of sense. :)

7 years ago

Pup Kit Kato{BratJack} - Of course I love to help whenever I can

7 years ago

Ryder(dom male) - I take a totally different tack then ignoring mine. I know her well enough to know what she finds great fun.
So in my case I take a bag of white beans and a bag of dried peas and mix them together.
While she is sorting them back out I do something within her earshot that is extremely fun.
This does a couple things first being a mindless task it allows her to concentrate on what she is being punished for. Secondly it allows her to know how much she is missing because she chose to misbehave.

7 years ago

Redtailedkitty - That is an interesting tactic, Ryder. Thank you for sharing. :)

7 years ago

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