goodgirlsubowned(sub female){Yes}

Journey into my submission

Tag along as I go on a journey with my Dom and learn and explore the bdsm lifestyle. I will blog what has or hasn’t worked for us and update on new things we are trying.

Introduction and new punishment

4 years ago. August 3, 2020 at 8:28 PM

Hello I am fairly new to the Bdsm lifestyle. I am 37 years old , I live in ohio near cedar point. I have a full time relationship with my Dom , who also has a profile on here called Dom fouronenine. He is my partner, my Dom and my soon to be live in bf. We are are on this new journey together to be a better submissive and Dominate. He is really good to me as I am to him as well. We both have full time jobs, mine does not allow for marks or other visible discrepancies of my lifestyle as I work for the schools. And also with that being said I can not engage in any illegal activity or public pornography. As it could have a negative impact on the school. I have felt I have always been a submissive and I have always enjoyed being tied up and pain with pleasure. I love being dominated and owned. One of my biggest downfalls as a submissive is the punishment. I tend to laugh or talk back because I like the punishment and I also like to push my boundaries, and I have also learned this is being a brat. I have talked to my Dom and we have decided that the punishments need to be more severe so that I can learn to be a better sub and he can also grow to be a better Dom. Although I do like pain and have a high tolerance for it , we together as a couple have decided to try the use of a dog remote control shock collar as punishment and reward. High voltage for punishment and low for erotic fun. We have not yet tried this but when we have I will let you know.

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - That can be a dangerous thing, medically....being a Brat myself, you may want to think outside the box....

Instead of physical punishments, how about mental ones?

No play time?
Lines?
Journalling?
Standing in a corner?

Something that isn't sex related and something abhorrent.

4 years ago

goodgirlsubowned(sub female){Yes} - - I understand and we do these as well but I actually like and prefer the pain punishment that’s just me. I have a VERY high pain tolerance and as an example of this I will tell you that I had my right kidney removed and recovered with no pain management. I have spilt my skull and had staples put in with no numbing. I have learned through my life it’s not what inflicts the pain but how you handle it and I can put myself in a meditative State for pretty much any amount of physical pain. But I do thank you for your concern. And my Dom is very loving and respectful he wouldn’t do anything I had a hard limit on.

4 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Amethyst knows her shit....

So A, how do we merge the brat with the masochist? I'll reach out to someone who is both....she may be able to add some ideas here.

I'm really happy to hear that your Dom respects your limits. Me, I'm not a masochist (just a brat) so this is out of my realm.

4 years ago

goodgirlsubowned(sub female){Yes} - Thank you both so much for your Input and you are right I do enjoy pain to a certain level beyond that would be punishment. My Dom has also tried no pain punishment such as leaving me tied up in the room and walking out for 10-15 mins ignoring me as I hate to be ignored. We have also tried edging which drives me crazy, And orgasm denial.

4 years ago

Morley(sub female){Max Sterne} - Okay I absolutely agree with everything the lafies above said.

I will add, first, SirsBabyDoll has some great writes in her blog on Brats. I suggest reading them.

Second, as LilAmethyst noted, punishments are not to be enjoyed. I believe being new for the two of you, you can find much to read here, online, listen to podcasts etc. I would also suggest writing a forum post.

Speaking from being someone who has both Brat tendencies (or more) and masochistic tendencies (or more) I would suggest that you and your Dom sit down and discuss your "acting out" and what you are doing to deserve punishment. Are there set rules/protocols in your dynamic that you're breaking and therefore corrective actions needs to be taken? I believe that should be your starting point AFTER doing some reading and educating yourselves.

I wish you both the most success and happiness in your dynamic. Rememeber SAFETY ALWAYS comes FIRST (you should never be tied up and left alone without all safety precautions put in place).

❤️

4 years ago

goodgirlsubowned(sub female){Yes} - Thank you for the advise. It’s usually hand restraints and I could get out of them if I really needed to.

4 years ago

WhatamIfightingfor(dom male){CurvyB} - I sure hope you look more into electricity play, it can go bad extremely fast.

4 years ago

goodgirlsubowned(sub female){Yes} - Indeed I am aware of the danger. We will definitely have a talk before use and I will certainly use the yellow or red words to let him know my limits and I know he doesn’t truly want me to get hurt and respects my limits. This was my idea.

4 years ago

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