I have had men and some women ask a variant of why don't you pick a side, or just admit to yourself what you really are.
It gets tiresome since in this community accepting people and there kinks are a part of it.
I am a switch!
Many men have said well I would find you attractive but not if your a switch or ever seek to dom me. Well then don't even waste your time talking to me. A request such as that is akin to saying I'd find you attractive if you were only a fish. Sorry can't change what you are for another persons preferences.
For me my first sexual experiences were as a hard dom top that leaned into primal and finding out what my partner liked and attempting to make that come true no matter how intense.
Pinning women to the wall by their throats as I fuck them suspended off the floor, rape play, bondage, sensation, all sorts of toys the end result after exploring her body ended up with letting me fucking them like an animal until they couldn't handle me.
Nothing feels quite as good as when your partner is fucked so good they pretty much pass out on you.
Sorry fellas one thing that helps dom women is no dick limitations and since I can run ultra marathons once I put my harness on you literally can't keep up as long as me and I don't gotta worry about what she likes since we can swap in whatever she fancies. 🤣
I enjoyed this aspect of my life and many of my female partners enjoyed it fuck yeah its awesome.
However as I got older as I admitted before I started to get jealous of the women I was with. It takes so much effort and energy to dom/ top as hard as I did, I saw the extreme pleasure I imparted and I become so jealous it made me almost resenting sometimes Id end a session in tears and let them believe the lie its because of the emotional connection. Nah it was the sexual frustration of never getting that level of passion reciprocating.
My inner bitch was like yeah being the alpha wolf isn't the inky side to you.
Admitting that I need the same in-kind at times or at least someone bringing the passion to me, has been one of the hardest things in life.
We are not monolithic I am not a contradiction I'm just being honest.
Would I love to to give the power up to some man or women to just let me totally relax go with the flow and serve my lover as there canvas to work on. Do I wanna feel the joy and soreness l have impressed upon other women as my body convulses from so many orgasms that I am reduced to curling up like doll.
Seems like a good way to end a day once in awhile if you ask me.
As for men and their concerns of being domed by a woman I am not here to sell you on it but say you might wanna consider that it's not as bad as it seems.
In the movies James Bond often dates scientists military women counter spys and some of them aren't just weak women who need a protector. Many are confident fit and ready to go toe to toe so clearly the idea of the amazon woman still exists in our society.
What do you think it looks like?
I will tell you we start making out and maybe you are or aren't in the mood I ask if you mind if I go for it since I wouldn't do anything without consent. Then I tackle you to the ground ripping your clothing off. If you attempt to resist I will with every fiber of my body control your resistance and then put you in a position where you realize I have more power then you thought and your not letting me anymore I'm taking it from you.
I might then lick your face or bite your neck / lip in a display of dominance. If you want out just say the safe word if not I might go into a sixtynine position and force my pussy in your face and demand you eat me out if you want me to suck you at all if you refuse the fair exchange then I will just have to out right sit on your face and make you eat me out if you want to breath do it bitch!
Then when I am wet enough and or your hard enough i6 start to mount you and keep your ass pinned to the floor and ram my entier body into you and use my inner muscles to clamp on your cock and try to rip every last drop of cum outra you.
Does that seem so horrible? What, you are afraid I will do you in the ass with a strap on? Well that's the second time we are together hahaha 🤣.
Realistically I love making people happy if someone is really uncomfortable with something I couldn't do it period as someone who has been in those positions I respect peoples limits. Also doing things people don't want aint my thing nor should it really be anyones.
I say men shouldn't mind death by snu snu, if you don't know the reference look up Futurama.
As for the women and non-binary people who are like hey Icegirl why the hell aren't you addressing me. Well let's not lie your already my type and I am totally comfortable being with you.
Submissive women and non-binary are amazing 😍 it often never works out though because the times when I just need to put my alpha energy on the shelf kinda breaks the illusion of me being a pure dom.
One of the women I loved most and totally was into me saw me in a moment of vulnerability and shes like WOW I never knew you as a pussy before it's odd to see you like this.
With tears in my eyes and my heart on my sleeve I told her that I still loved her but I can't always be what she needs me to be. Call it my cycle, my moods, my personality, I am not a rock I am a complicated humean and am more like the wind. I can be a hurricane, or a cool breeze just looking to be harnessed.
As for dom women this is the most interesting group since I also have little experience with em as sexual partners. Since if your 5'8" and strong enough to lift over 300 pounds run marathons and can kick through a brick people just assume your a dom/ top 24/7. Or maybe thats what I was busy projecting.
Either way I'd love to have a dom woman top me the couple of times it happened in my life has been the most memorable sex I ever had but I was so uncertain of what it meant for me I ran from it.
As far as submissive men and or slaves of any sort. The issue is me being a switch not that I don't find many of you awesome and attractive but that you can only ever fill one of my needs. I just don't see the benefit of trying to make you do something for my needs your not comfortable with. Believe it or not I respect you so much I will try not to waste your time because I know my inability to always be top/dom has hurt many relationships in the past. You might say yeah ice but can't you at least have a hook up with us. Well for me sex can become spiritual and deeply emotional once I bond with someone its really hard to just stay detached. It makes it odd for me I'm sorry.
I just told you who I am why I'm a switch.
Wanna tell me how you feel about it?
How do you think a switch can work in BDSM.
Love ya,
Icegirl
