Attracted to Someone you Don't Know❓
I was watching a wholesomely sweet video by Jaiden animations about Aeroace.
Thinking when I want to explain these concepts to people this might become my new go to. Then she said something at nine minutes and thirty seconds into the video.
That blew my mind.🤯 (Explained below) Wait people can be drawn sexually to individuals or crush on people just from looking at them even -- celebrities.
How⁉️
I remember someone in the scene once pressed me hard who was my star trek crush growing up, telling me everyone had one and there's was 7 of 9. 🌌.
I said that's impossible, I could never meet or get to know a fictional character so how could I ever be attracted to one.🤪 Silly
Before the current person I am dating I didn't date anyone for 11 years and it was 8 years since I had a sexual encounter with anyone.🗼
Because drum roll I am demisexual! 🥳
Thought I was gonna say asexual, I know but demisexual is a common subset in the gray community. 📖
We demisexuals need a deep and intense connection before we feel any sort of sexual attraction 🧲.
For one person no joke I knew them for 15 years and I was then like oh maybe they are a little attractive I guess? (Still pondering if they are)
Which was shocking since before that moment they weren't any more attractive then a cardboard cutout. 🤡
So to have someone talking about how we areoace feel like aliens because other people are just sexy time go from the moment puberty happens is confusing yet reassuring to me. 👽🛸
I haven't heard this term But I also guess I am demi romantic as well.
I am only romantic towards someone I really have a deep emotional connection with makes sense. 🥺
How could I be romantic with someone I just met. It's impossible.
Seriously how do people do that.😣
The idea of hook up culture, or just meeting someone at a bar, or party and be like yeah lets do stuff. 🤢
I'm like woah woah 😳 how is this possible?
My current girlfriend I knew for 4-5 months before we even had more then a conversation.
Even then when we started chatting I was debating in my head I do enjoy her a lot, is this something that can be more than friends she seems like she wants that. (Literally stole my bra while I was wearing it to get my attention)😍
My thoughts -- she might be showing sexual interest. (Being ace is ridiculous)
😅 How does that even work again, oh shoot I have to read up on what it is normal people do to court humans? 👩🔬📚
At times being demisexual I know frustrates others because I suck at intimate stuff and just don't get it
One time me and my girlfriend went to a party and I was reading the news while fun activities were going on and she thought I was feeling sad and left out. 😮💨
In reality I was just being a demisexual having fun reading the news like a nerdy idiot who doesn't get how parties work.🤓
You mean you're not supposed to try to win every game, take more joy in the games played then the socializing, and then blurt out whatever random facts or hyper fixations you have that you think might be relevant at a given time.🤪
Someone complements a couch which they say are comfy. (Oh boy that was a mistake since that's an Ikea couch and its now time for me to nerd out about them!)
I then say well these seem to be from the IKEA collection which is not known for comfort but have great lumbar support which is why you find them comfortable because you probably have lower back pain from bad posture.
Hey would you like me to massage since you probably have some tension in these muscles.
Finishes massage goes back to reading the news. 📰As if nothing happened.
For all people who experience normal human attraction 🧲 be kinds to those who fall under the aro or ace banners like me.
We genuinely want to socialize and be included we just are different.🥳
That doesn't mean we can't be loving, caring, and the most supportive person you will ever met in your damn life!🫂
Infact were some of the best at it.💯
Just know if you put out hints that you want more they will just go flying by our head's.🛫
How many times I had this type of conversation is hilarious 😂
You doing anything tonight?
Nope?
Wanna go out?
Not really?
How about I take you to dinner?
I just said I didn't want to go out tonight?
Well I want to get to know you?
We are talking now your getting to know me now?
But I mean in person?
What's so special in person?
Ugh I want to see if we can progress?
What do you mean were already great friends which is a high honor?
Are you messing with me right now?
Um no this conversation is getting weird?
I want to have sex with you ok I find you sexy gosh?
Oh I didn't realize you did um yeah I don't know how I feel about that but we can still be friends👍
Other person you're insane🤯⁉️
I genuinely apologize on behalf of all people who have ever just simply didn't understand an aro-demisexial.💐
I truly never meant any harm or to lead anyone on.😅
I still am shocked that people can just be attracted to random people they don't know like how is that even possible? 🤔