This is not a bash on littles so everyone take a breath. Ok.... Let's being....
This is a community that is based around two things, open and honest communication and consent, neither of those are things children are capable of. We expect that if you are going to be in the lifestyle and make adult decisions that you act like an adult about those decisions. The lifestyle is a choice. Inside that choice are many more choices. Choices are to be made by adults, not children who can't tell the truth.
Open and honest communication is absolutely crucial in this type of relationship. Even when it hurts, the truth is the right answer. If you feel the need to lie, you are not adult enough to be in this community. If you cannot accept the consequences of your actions, you do not deserve the benefits of this community.
Lying is not just telling someone something that isn't true either. Lying can also be NOT telling something that is true. Lying by omission is still lying. If you cannot see that then you are not adult enough to be in this community. (Seeing a pattern yet?)
Guess what though, this goes both ways. If someone is being open and honest with you and you continue to doubt them anyway, then you need to do some serious work on yourself because you are the problem. Honesty comes in honest environments. Constantly doubting everything someone says is NOT an honest environment. In this environment there is no reward for being honest because they are going to be doubted anyway. So why would they?
Kinks are not for kids. If i can't trust you how am i supposed to be honest with you? For me, that breaks down very simply to, if i can't trust you how am i supposed to leave your bruised and battered and trust that you won't get me thrown in prison? For other people it breaks down differently but the point remains the same.
If you want to be in this community, if you want to be treated like you are in charge of who you are and what you like, then grow up and be honest. Grow up and act like you can be trusted.
*steps off soap box*
As always my PMs are open. I love you guys and thanks for listening to the rambles of a dick-head idealist Dom before he turns into a cynical old prick.
