Random Rambling Rants

Just some things I've noticed from the community at large, not anything specific to the Cage or any groups.

• Cliques being a thing. It feels so... high school... I'm tired of going to "community" events and feeling ostracized for being the new guy. Especially if it's advertised as being "educational"
• The amount of "subs" that come into this lifestyle with the unhealthy mindset that you "deserve" to be punished due to low self esteem. It's effectively self-harm with extra steps. It's incredibly unnerving as a Dom to meet so many of you that just want to jump straight into being hurt...
• Before that last point gets accused of victim blaming, there is the obvious flip side of the amount of people who title themselves "dominants" without having put in the time, research, and effort to earn said title. The worst part is when they flaunt their obvious ignorance in front of others and then dare to call others "fakes" when they are called out.
• This one deeply irks me personally. So many in the community ignore or downright deny that Dom Drop is a thing. We are not kink dispensers, we deserve to be checked in on too, to have our wants and needs acknowledged, to have our day asked about, a simple "are you okay?"
• The biggest grievance of all, that so many in the community equate kink to swinging. Monogamy is still alive and well for many in this world and should/need to be respected just as much as the poly crowd.

I am so tired.