*Preface*
This is not addressed to anyone in particular but to those who need to hear it. Do not come in attacking me from some arbitrary high ground about how this doesn't apply to you.
It has pained me throughout the years how many subs I have encountered that imagine their future Dom is some magical combination of Captain America, disciplinarian, sex machine, chef, therapist, educator, father figure, home maker, provider, rock, safe space, ambulatory dildo, all with the patience of a Buddhist monk. Not going to speak on the behalf of my fellow Dom/mes, some of us definitely can be all of the above and fucking kudos to you brothers/sisters/non-binary siblings, but I want to address the one title I personally cannot and will never be.
Please don't expect me to be your full time therapist.
In this wonderful exciting age in society where we are finally understanding mental health is as important as physical health, at least in my corner of the world again don't want to speak on behalf of everyone, please know there are more and more trained professionals out there that know how to deal with mental and emotional trauma and can help you with it. Understand that I am not one of them. For the life of me, know that I am not perfect and am dealing with my own personal baggage, which I will gladly share with you if you wish, just like I would want to share yours so we're both not overwhelmed. There is however a big difference between sharing your traumas with me and dumping them all over me expecting me to be your life raft, to carry them in this turbulent raging ocean storm called life. I can't fix you babe, please understand that. I can only help you temporarily in between the times the therapist is available. I am a band-aid at best, not the surgeon you need.
